Ideas Anyone?


I loved it that Al was chatty today, but I hate what is happening inside. We are becoming quite constricted on what Al can eat anymore. Solid foods are out. puree and mashed is in. Red sauces are out, causing him heartburn because he barely eats. Creamy foods, puddings and ice-cream and milk make his mucus worse, thus he chokes and coughs.

All I seem to be able to feed him is mashed potatoes. Tonight he ate about five bites of macaroni and cheese. He was able to eat it, but it was a bit of a struggle for him. He is so thirsty the past three days. He just can’t seem to get enough fluids.

I was explained to that at this time of his life thirst is a big issue. I am not sure why. If any of you know let me know please.

His arms are contracted so that they always look like he is praying. I keep putting them to the side of his body but they just creep back to the center of his trunk.

He didn’t do bad today. I didn’t hear much complaining. Mainly heartburn and his heels hurting. His heels are constantly on pillows but he is complaining of foot pain. I also was told that at this stage of a person’s life, with his oxygen level being now 74, that he will feel a tingle in his feet from lack of circulation.

What else will happen before he is out of pain? I don’t know, but I am hoping that some of you thinkers out there can help me with a more appealing menu for him. I will be going to the grocery store tomorrow or Sunday.

Thanks ahead of time. I know some of you will give me some great ideas.mashed-potatoes-520

My Thanksgiving Dinner Including Recipes


Well it is a few days until Thanksgiving Day. My turkey is thawing in the refrigerator. Wednesday I will be doing all the work I can do in preparations with food that I can because I can no longer stand without pain for too long.

Our menu here at home is going to be like this.

TurkeyThanksgiving-Turkey-Dinner

Mashed Potatoesmashed-potatoes-520

Green beans

Corngreen beans

5 layer salad5 layered salad

Layer lettuce, crumbled fresh bacon, peas, shredded cheese until you are out of ingredients. Cover entire dish with mayonnaise. Store over night.

Fried Bread Dough with Strawberry Jambread dough

You can make home-made yeast rolls or cheat like I do and purchase frozen bread balls. Let them rise and fry them in hot oil until each side floats. Smother them with butter and jam.

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Grandma’s homemade dressing.dressing

Cook a chicken. De-bone and save broth. Mix three eggs, add several pieces of bread. I usually use about a half or over of a loaf of white bread. Mix with eggs, add a stalk or two of cooked and diced celery. Add chicken pieces. Add one can of cream of mushroom soup, one can of celery soup. Mix. Add enough broth to get it to the consistency you wish. Bake for half an hour at 350 degrees, maybe a little longer, depending on your desire of crispness.

Macaroni and cheese, homemade.mac and cheese I cook my macaroni, then add 2 cups of shredded Colby cheese, a stick of butter and a little bit of milk. It makes it nice and stringy. Then I make a white sauce by melting three tablespoons of butter in a saucepan. Then add about two to three tablespoons of flour. Stir constantly until it bubbles. Slowly add milk then until you get it the thickness you want. The key is to make sure the flour and butter are smooth before adding milk, and don’t add too much milk, adding won’t hurt, trying to back track won’t work.

Pumpkin piepumpkin pie, directions taken from back of Libby can.

Pudding dessertpudding dessert

 

Pudding Dessert
First Level
1 cup flour, 1 stick butter, 1/2 cup nuts.
Mix and press in a 9×13 pan Bake for 15 minutes 350 degrees
Second layer
1 cup cool whip, 1 cup powdered sugar, 1 8 oz. cream cheese
Blend together and add to first layer when cooled
Third layer
2 packages of instant pudding, your choice of flavor, we always used butterscotch, made with only 3 cups of milk instead of 4. add to second layer
Fourth layer
Top with rest of cool whip and garnish with nuts

Caramel Apple Saladcaramel apple salad

Ingredients

6 regular size Snickers Candy Bar

6 apples I used Red Delicious… Granny Smith would also be great

1 (5 oz.) package Vanilla Instant Pudding dry, do not prepare

1/2 cup milk

1 (12 oz.) tub cool whip

1/2 cup caramel ice cream topping

Instructions

Whisk vanilla pudding packet, 1/2 cup milk and cool whip together until well combined.

Chop up apples and Snickers.

Stir chopped apples and Snickers into pudding mixture.

Place in a large bowl and drizzle with caramel ice cream topping.

Chill for at least 1 hour before serving.

Tremor Day


old man winter_4c5c07704689fIt has been an interesting day and yet I have remained calm. Starting with last evening the lady did show up to help. I didn’t get any time to myself but I was not surprised as I was teaching her.

I think she was a bit nervous on making sure she wasn’t hurting Al and doing everything right. Hopefully with each time she visits it will get easier for her.

We had a white ground today but no snow on the roads. Old Man Winter is going to make sure we don’t ever forget him. Al and I have watched today as spitting snow is blowing around. It seems odd that we see the snow and yet the leaf truck is out picking up leaves.

Because I can’t get out anymore enough to work in the yard, all my leaves are laying there with snow on top. I hate it. I like the  ground to be able to breathe and for it to be clean but not this year.

Today Al woke up in a good mood but as the morning progress so did his M.S.A. Right before lunch his sweating came alive. Poor guy is laying in his bed totally uncovered in his brief only with two fans running on him. I feel like I need to wear my winter coat when I go in to visit him.

He ate all his breakfast and all of his lunch. Right after lunch he started complaining of tingling running down his one arm. Now we have had issues for about two weeks with his one arm. He can’t seem to move it without my help.

He will wake me up through the night to have me come in and move it. Today is the first he has said it is tingling. I can’t decide if he is having a stroke or if the M.S.A connections just aren’t working making it tingle.

I listened to his heart and it was racing due to his tremors I believe. I managed to get the tremors to slow down as I massaged his hands. The heart rate slowed down and then it scared me a tiny bit as it slowed down so much I could barely hear it.

He finally drifted off to sleep for only about ten minutes then his tremors woke him up. I just came from in there and there is nothing I can do to get them to stop. It is crazy, a complete wire loss connection from the brain to the limbs.

I made some home-made chicken noodle soup for our supper. I also made some pudding. Pretty easy, the hardest part was waiting for the chicken to cook. After doing laundry and putting it a way, I am going to go lay on the couch and put my feet up.

I sure hope the new gal can do more work tonight than me.

Thanksgiving


Thanksgiving

Mom and Dad always said

Don’t eat much breakfast or you’ll be sad

You’ll miss out on turkey and taters too

Deviled eggs and plenty of food

So a piece of peanut butter toast

A glass of juice and water at most

Our tummies were growling we could hear

Please let us get there oh father dear

I walk in and oh, the smell of food

Everything looks so yummy and good

Mom fills my plate and also my glass

I take a nice seat and sit on my ___

Oh this was worth starvation today

For going to Grandma’s is the only way

Tummy all full I can hardly walk

Afraid I’ll puke if I begin to talk

I find my way to the guest bedroom

I lay on the bed and very soon

My eyes are heavy and then they close

This is the way Thanksgivings go.

Written by,

Terry Shepherd

11/06/2013

thanksgiving table

Pumpkin Pie Cake, Cool Whip and Rhino The Taste Tester


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Pumpkin Pie Cake

Pumpkin pie cake.
1 box yellow cake mix
3/4 c butter
4 eggs
2 c pumpkin
1/2 c brown sugar
3/4 c white sugar
1 1/2 tsp cinnamon
2/3 c milk
(I cut the sugars in half)
Mix cake mix minus 1 c (reserve and set aside for topping),1/2 c melted marg, and 1 beaten egg.Put in bottom of a 9×13 pan. Mix together pumpkin, 3 eggs, 1/2 c br sugar, 1/4 c wht sugar,2/3 c milk and 1 1/2 tsp cinnamon.Spread over cake. Mix together and sprinkle on top of pumpkin mixture… 1 c cake mix, 1/2 c wht sugar, 1/4 c marg (not melted). Bake at 350* 50-55 min (in my oven I had to bake it a bit longer.

Now I have never actually gone through the steps of my baking, but I thought what the heck, first time for everything.

Now if you follow the directions above and my photos below,  you will see this is a very easy recipe.

The results are in:

The cake is very moist. It doesn’t stay together in one  piece like most cakes. It crumbles and falls apart. It is not a sweet cake loaded with sugars although it takes sugars. It reminds me of a crumb cake. Al ate all of his. I ate all of mine.

For supper we had cut-up and fried sausage, boiled potatoes with butter, fresh cooked carrots and the cake. Now Al ate all of his supper. I ate all of mine. Rhino, our fat cat is a very fussy cat. He eats no table food but yet sits at my feet and begs like a dog.rhino 2

I added a dollop of cool whip to the cake to bring a bit of sweetness to it. I gave Rhino a bite of each food we ate and the only one he approved of and ate was the small taste of cool whip. Al and I smiled at this.

So I thought supper was alright. The cake was good and all is well at our dinner table. What was on your plate tonight?

Here is how I did it described by photos.

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A True Story, A Little Scare


I have a little shiver that just ran through my body. Did you ever have that feeling something is not right? Or someone is in your home but you don’t see anyone?

Al woke up alright today. I washed him up, and fixed him breakfast. He had a banana nut muffin, scrambled eggs, two sausage links and apple juice.

Afterwards, I shaved him and trimmed all the hairy parts that seem to grow only on a man’s head or face, or maybe both. LOL

I put him in his lift chair and he listened to his audio tape player with the New Testament on it.new testament

I made a cheese cake for his lunch and when the time was right, he had new  baby potatoes, meat loaf, corn and cheesecake. I was doing what I had to do since he refused his meals yesterday and I won. He ate 100% on both meals.

He started the sweating thing and the tremors are back but they aren’t too bad. He is so cold and clammy to the touch. It sort of gives me an odd feeling when I touch him.

After lunch was over he tried to use the toilet with no success. I changed his brief and put him in bed. As I was coming out of his bedroom I went and got the clean laundry I had done from his bed change this morning.

As I walked back in to his room I  heard him say, ” I love you Mom.”

I didn’t say anything and walked back out of his room. As I passed the front door, the screen door closed. I instantly turned around to see who was there. No one was there. I don’t know why but I opened it and closed it again, making sure it was latched.

I looked out on the ramp and I saw no one. It made me have a hint of shivers but I just ignored it. It must have been the wind I thought. I walked a way from the door and then I got scared.

The television that has been on the same channel all day and at the same volume was suddenly blaring. It was so loud it made me jump in my spot. I raced over to grab the remote and turn it down. I had to click the volume button a few times before I got the volume back to a normal hearing level.

With this being the second startle I slowly checked out the house. I started with my bedroom, and made my way through the house. I saw nothing. Although I had just came from Al’s room I went back there one more time; just to check. Al was talking to Mom.

I left his room and came out here and sat down at the computer. I heard the cat eating, but when I glanced over the cat wasn’t there. I don’t know what the explanation is but someone or something is definitely here.

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Daily Prompt; Three-Tenths


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Scribble down the first ten words that come to mind. Pick three of them. There’s your post title. Now write!

Photographers, artists, poets: show us HAPHAZARD.

I wish I could take a nap this afternoon, yes!

I have been busy since I got up this morning. I got up a half an hour before Al did. I slapped some water on my face to open my eyes. Brushed my teeth. You see it is my fault I am tired today. Usually I can place the blame on caring for Al or my age. Last night my son and his family and a couple of friends came here in the evening.

A fire was started in the pit. Watching the glow caused conversation to flow easily and with checking on Al and snacks, medicine and good times I never crawled into bed until almost 1 in the morning. This is definitely against my body clock. Even when I went to bed I could still hear the chatter and laughter outside my window as the gathering still was in gear.

I got dressed and started the coffee. Then turned on the TV for Al so he could find something to bitch about besides his illness. I got Al up and washed him. Put a clean brief and clothes on him and pushed him in his wheelchair to the kitchen.

Then Rhino, our fat cat heard voices and he had to be a part of our breakfast club. He mewed and I kept saying, “not now, later, no petting during cooking breakfast.” I think he was ignoring my request. He is so impatient when it comes to him.

Al wanted pancakes and sausage and one glazed doughnut. Along with orange juice and milk and his medications he and the cat ate their breakfast. Al wanted in his recliner after brushing his teeth.

He has been sitting and dozing for about two hours now. While he was taking it easy I dumped the cat box and put new litter in it. I swept the kitchen floor. I cleaned Al’s bathroom and made his bed.

I made those two recipes this morning. Remember the ones I posted last night? Sausage Casserole and Chocolate Chip Gooey Cake. Those took a while but they turned out looking pretty.

Now I am here taking a few moments to check-up on you and write this. Next I will be in changing Al’s brief and considering lunch ideas with him. After lunch he may try to squeeze a short nap in. This is where my wish comes in. I want to take a nap this afternoon too. Yes, it would be perfect timing, but alas, I will not be able to.

I will be getting Al’s clean clothes and brief out and getting clean clothes on myself because he has an eye doctor appointment this afternoon. We shall figure out how much more vision he has lost since last October. I know it is going to be a difference as he can not see handwriting anymore.

When we get home he may want to take another nap and then I might get lucky as they maidsay and take a few winks myself.

Building Memories, Cards and Recipes


Al's cards 3I picked up this envelope in the mail today. It said it was from Valerie L. It was addressed to Al. When he got home I handed it to him. It took him fifteen minutes to open it but he did it. There was a very pretty card and two magnets, one for him and one for me. Thank-you so much Valerie. He really liked it and the magnets are adorable.

I sound like a broken record but once again if anyone wants to send Al a card just write to me at

tellmenolies2004@yahoo.com

for address.

I got a couple of recipes off of my Facebook friends this week. Since Al has struggled so much with pain I decided that I can’t take the pain a way, but I can keep his belly full. The two recipes I am going to make are really good-looking to me. I thought maybe you may want to try them too.

Chocolate Chip Gooey Cake

Crust

1 box butter recipe cake mix.

1 egg

1/2 c. melted butter

Filling

1 8oz. softened cream cheese

2 eggs

1 tsp. vanilla

1 16 oz. box powdered sugar

1/2 c. melted butter

1 c. chocolate chips

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Lightly grease a 9×13 baking pan. In a bowl combine cake mix, egg, and butter with an electric mixer. Mix well. Pat into the bottom of prepared pan and set aside. Still using an electric mixer, beat cream cheese until smooth, add eggs and vanilla. Dump powdered sugar and beat very well. Reduce the speed of mixer and slowly pour in melted butter. Mix well. Stir in chocolate chips.

Pour filling onto  mixture and spread evenly. Bake for 40-45 minutes. You want the center to be gooey so don’t over bake. If you want to drizzle chocolate over the top you may after 15 minutes of cooling the cake. Allow to cool for one hour before cutting.

 

Cherry Bars

1 c. butter, softened

2 c. sugar

4 eggs

1 tsp. vanilla

1/4 tsp. almond extract

1 tsp. salt

1 21oz. of cherry pie filling

Glaze

1 cup powdered sugar

1/2 tsp. vanilla

1/2 tsp. almond extract

2Tbs. milk

Cream together butter and sugar. Add eggs and beat well. Beat in extracts.

In a separate bowl combine flour and salt. Add to the creamed mixture. Mix until combined.

Grease a 9×13 baking pan. Spread 3 cups batter. Spread with pie filling. Drop remaining batter on top.

Bake at 350 degrees for 35 minutes or until knife or toothpick comes out clean

Cool. Combine glaze ingredients and drizzle over the bars.

 

Sausage Casserole

1 lb. sausage

1/2 small red bell pepper

1/3 white onion

1/2 small green bell pepper

1 lb. frozen hash browns

1/2 c. sour cream

1/2 to 3/4 cup American shredded cheese

A pinch of garlic powder

salt and pepper

4 eggs

1/4 c. milk

1 c. cheddar cheese, shredded

Preheat oven to 350 degrees

In a large skillet cook sausage until browned. Place the sausage on paper towels to drain. Leave the fat in the skillet.

Dice up the onions, green and red bell peppers

Add to skillet and saute until just tender.

Place the sautéed veggies on a plate and set aside.

In a large bowl add the thawed has browns.

Stir in the sour cream until it coats the hash browns

Stir in the American shredded cheese

Season with salt and pepper, garlic powder.

Spray a 9 inch deep dish pie plate with cooking oil and press the hash brown mixture into the pie plate getting it as flat and even as possible.

Cover the top with sausage, onions and peppers. Set aside.

In a small bowl beat eggs with milk.

Pour the egg mixture evenly over the top of the casserole.

Use a knife to poke holes in the casserole so that the eggs mixture goes down further.

Top with shredded cheese

Cover with foil and bake for 45 minutes.

Remove the foil and bake for another 10-15 minutes or until the casserole is fully set.

Let cool for 10 minutes and enjoy.

I am going to be making the Sausage Casserole and the Cherry Bars tomorrow.

While you are all sending Al cards you are doing more than choosing a card, sticking a stamp, licking the envelope. You are helping Al to smile, and to cling to what is just for him. You are also helping me to build memories of his life.                        101_0629

Thank-you

 

 

Recipes, Photos And A Funny Video


Although Al is 58 years old he has the mind of an older child. I am constantly looking at ways to make his food more interesting.

The best way I get him to eat is make it appealing as if I am making if for a nine or ten-year old.

Today, I spent some time in the kitchen creating. I use my imagination, add here, change this or that, and hopefully I create some fun tasting foods that he will eat.

He has always been a big, big eater but with his illness there are plenty of days that he doesn’t want to eat and I force him by my creations or he will only eat part of what I fix.

Here is what I did today.

I took some graham cracker crumbs that I had in my cupboard. I tossed some butter in the microwave. Threw both of these into a 9×13 pan and stirred and patted. Next, I had the cheapest, generic brownie mix the store offers. I added the one egg, and the one-third cup of oil. Then I was to add two teaspoons of water but I held off on that for a moment.

I mixed to the egg and oil mixture, or should I say tossed, I don’t measure out the added items, chocolate chips, coconut, stirred and then added enough water to make it moist like cake mix. I poured this over the graham cracker mixture and baked at 350 degrees until it was done. Here is how it looks.

brownies

The next thing I did was make a batch of pancakes a head of time. Al is a pancake lover. I buy frozen ones, blueberry for him but I like the added touch that shows him I think he is special.

This is what I did.

I took  Hungry Jack pancake mix. The kind you only add water. I poured out half of a new box into a bowl. I sliced up two bananas, added chocolate chips and some coconut. Then I added enough water to my eye’s liking.

Here is how these turned out, and by the way, I had to sample one of these. They do not even require syrup they are so yummy.

pancakespancakes to eatLastly, I wanted to thank Lezlie and Angel for the cards they sent Al yesterday. They were very nice. I took a photo of the cards he has received so far. Just a quick F.Y. I. if anyone wants to still send Al a card of get well or something cute, please email me at

tellmenolies2004@yahoo.com

I will be glad to send you his address.

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I Am Not Me Today


I don’t know what my problem is but today I have been nasty. I am short on patience and upset. I don’t know what about either. I know that last night Al‘s legs were so frozen that he couldn’t move at all.

After two attempts at trying to transfer, and almost tumbling to the floor, I had to force his body back in the wheelchair. He got so upset with me because I placed him back in his chair he grabbed a hold of my wrists and put the vice on them.

They hurt and I wanted to lash out at him verbally. I wanted to scream at the top of my lungs, “look at all I do for you! You have the nerve to hurt me after I saved you from falling piranha3dart_3973and hurting yourself. How could you do this to me.”

Instead I did tell him that he hurt me. I explained to him why I put him back in his chair. I don’t know if he didn’t get it or didn’t want to hear what I was saying.

There was tension between the two of us as I placed him in bed last night. I told him goodnight but left out the important part I always say to him. The I love you part.

Why did I do that? To hurt him? To hurt him like he hurt me, wow, is that childish or not?

This morning my defenses were still up. We had a quiet breakfast. He ate in silence and I scurried around the house getting everything ready for his departure on the bus.

After he left I went about preparing a favorite supper of his. Why? If I am so upset, why did I do this? Why didn’t I just have hot dogs or some crap. But no, I fixed chicken drumsticks in BB sauce the way he likes. I made mac and cheese the way he likes it. I even made him Blueberry Cheesecake muffins and he had cottage cheese with pineapple on top, just the way he loves it.

When I was waiting for him to get off the bus this evening I was excited inside at the look or words he would say when he saw his King meal. But instead when he got off the bus, the hurt came back.

I took him inside and placed him at the table. We both ate in silence once again. He brushed his teeth. I washed him up and now he is napping.

What in the world am I doing and why? I have to stop this. I am the big sister, the healthier one. He is the younger sibling and the sick one.