What Remains Important


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birthday cake (Photo credit: freakgirl)

Tomorrow is my birthday. Instead of being younger, I will be now a young 58. Oh my gosh! When I see this in print, it scares me. I have lived over half of my life. I actually saw a commercial yesterday that talked about a year that I wouldn’t be here to celebrate. What have I done with my life? Shall I go by priority, stupidity, happy times? I think that I will start with things people may say after my passing. She has three wonderful children. They have grown up to be respectable adults. They treat their spouses fair, and they adore their kids. I have been married twice. One ended because of my being messed up with the meetings of my natural mother. It led to doors being opened for my  husband, and  he slipped away from me. The second marriage was rebound? Scared of being on my own? Yes, this is it. Number two, scared of being on my own. There was many controlling issues in that marriage. It took me many years with the help of my children, and God to break that tie. So we can put a little stupidity in that mix and some out of mind in the other part. I had a business that I owned. An antique store. I refurnished furniture for clients. I loved that.It meant a lot to me. After the divorce I had no building to continue my work, but the antiques are still in my blood today.  That was something people will talk about after I am gone. I am a child of God. This was a very important accomplishment in my life. No one will question this after I am gone, as they already know the answer of where I will go next. I take care of my brother. To me this is a huge accomplishment. So many ask me when I will give it up. All I can say, is the good Lord will let me know

Now for tomorrow, my birthday, I want you, the reader, to tell me what you think I could do to celebrate this birthday. We are going to dream big, but keep it real. What can a 58-year-old, single woman do that will be remembered by others after I am gone? Make sure to leave your comments. I am going to be reading each one of these.

56 thoughts on “What Remains Important

  1. I nominated you for the beautiful blogger award! This is why(your posts)! You are so beautiful, I wish I could make you have one of the happiest birthdays in your life! Have a great birthday! You deserve it!

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  2. Congrats on the Beautiful Blogger Award, well-deserved, and on another year of reflection, which for me, is what I do on my birthday. Think about what I liked, would have liked, and should like about my life. And oh yes, an ice cream cake. 😀 If you can have it, if not I’ll eat one for you. 😀

    Pink.

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  3. first off Happy Happy Birthday. My mother is 65, all my life I waited for her to complain (like many other women) about her age. She has yet to do that. I remember her turning 40 and saying, “its just a number, i feel good and the good Lord gives me the strength to work harder than most men”. i am 35, but when asked, i usually don’t even remember my age. I have to count it up. That is one of many wonderful lessons my mom taught me. tomorrow i hope you have time to take a nice walk, listen to the birds, look at the spring flowers, breathe in fresh air and just enjoy being in the body that God gave you. love & hugs

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    • thank u my dear friend. i think a hair cut, and new color sounds ideal. i m not used to treating myself, but i think just this once, i can pull it off!!!!! thank you, this is a fantastic idea

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  4. Congratulations to the award and … to getting more enriched -*smile – I would suggest you give the day to yourself – just to do what I feel for doing and when you feel for it. Spoil yourself on a SPA – a whole day treatments. Let the soul rest and body be taken care off.
    Sod the cake, the family … friends – they will still be there on Sunday.

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  5. I’d say put on your best ‘feel good’ outfit and just go out there, and at the end of the day, if it’s possible, gather your family and or friends about you for some laughter, hugs and good food.

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  6. Well, first let me say an early Happy Birthday!!! Shall I sing to you :)? You’d run away, lol! Second, I don’t know what your financial state is but I would treat myself if I was you to something like a manicure or a new hair do or some such thing! Maybe dye it a new color? I’ll be 54 in July, so I’m not that far behind you girlfriend! I’ve been thinking about getting my hair cut short again, even though Mark likes it longer 😦 He met me when it was short-short and liked me enough then to marry me!! ha-ha. Just a thought!! Mucho hugs and kisses for your b-day, Terri

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  7. ♫♪Happy Birthday to you ♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪ Happy Birthday to you ♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪ Happy Birthday dear “Terry” ♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪Happy Birthday to you! ♪♫•*¨*•.¸

    Everybody has great ideas… A trip to the store and buy some hair dye…Dye your hair at home…. Super cuts after for a new cut…. Merrill Norman make up… they will do a new make up face for you for free… ( I just buy something cheap! @ $10/$20.) then a new blouse or something at Marshal or a discount place to go with your new hair and make up… 🙂 Then you are are set for a new year!

    Have a Wonderful Day!

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    • i haven’t purchased any new clothes for a long time. i think this is a grand idea. Spring is here, a new shirt and shorts perhaps……..thanks so much for this wonderful idea. you may think i am silly for not being able to find something to do on my own, but for five years now i don’t think about me, so doing it now, feels strange……..thank u for the beautiful song!!!

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      • I know how ya feel! Glad I could help! It’s your Day! The little things always helps deal with the big things! 🙂 Enjoy!

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  8. HAPPY BIRTHDAY! And thanks for the background info….you are definitely known as a woman of strong faith! I don’t know what “within reason” is for you, but I do hope you enjoy a delicious birthday meal and some type of memorable treat like a massage or mani/pedi!

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    • my mind was saying ANYTHING YOU CAN THINK OF FOR A BIRTHDAY, but my better judgement thought i better say within reason. i don’t want people to know that i might have a wild inner side still left from my younger days, hahaha

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  9. You are blessed, you are loved, you are unique, you are talented, you are followed, you are liked, you inspire, you challenge, you are faithful, you are human, you are patient and kind.

    You are a beautiful daughter of God. Celebrate Him in you and you in Him.

    Happy Birthday Terry,
    Vince

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    • that is so beautiful Vince, i never see myself as you described me. you describe me as a beautiful flower opening up each morning for a new day of serving God. thank you so much

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  10. Your Birthday! Oh happy, happy birthday, Terry!
    This is for sometime during your birthday weekend, since you will be busy celebrating tomorrow:
    The first simple but beautiful thing that came to mind, since you want to share with others, is to find a large planter that you can set outside your entrance and then get an assortment of beautiful flowers, some trailing ones or vines too, and cheer yourself, your brother, and all passersby with your beautiful and growing little garden.
    Have fun doing your hair and pampering yourself–sounds fun, and well deserved!
    Wising you joy! ~ Lily

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    • ooooooo i love the idea of the planter outside my entrance. what a fabulous way to have to share with others my special day. i will do this !! thank u so much lily. thank u for the beautiful idea!

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    • i often am amazed sara at the way a connection can be formed through words.i never thought i could feel such a friendship through words only, without actually meeting in person. i, too, am a new blogger, five weeks. i used to write about my feelings for years, but never shared them. i never wanted anyone to think i was other than normal, lol, in thoughts. so much today in world is surface talk. here i have been able to be truthful from within, and realize people do understand

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  11. Happy birthday, Terry!!!! I wish you all the best on your special day. I’m not sure what to suggest but whatever you choose to do, please make it memorable. Big bear hugs for you xx

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  12. Happy Birthday!

    Do things today that you love to do’ treat yourself to a little selfish time. Then people will say, ‘She knew when it was important to have a little down time.’

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  13. Happy Birthday Ms Terry! Thank you for all the inspiring words.
    I think with this blog, God made you an instrument to reach out to people like us.

    May you have a great day ahead! 🙂

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  14. Terry, you asked “We are going to dream big, but keep it real. What can a 58-year-old, single woman do that will be remembered by others after I am gone?”
    Make another blog posting… I don’t think you have any idea how many lives you are effecting through your blog. Lord bless you and Happy Birthday!

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    • No, you are probably right. I don’t know how many lives I am affecting. I do love writing though. I will definitely post another blog. Thank you for the birthday wishes my friend. I so appreciate your thinking of me!!!

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  15. I know this is late, but I have a computer that needs to be put out of its and my, misery, so I am trying to catch up while it is halfway behaving itself. I think on your b’day you should do just whatever makes you happy and feel good about yourself!!

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    • i did, other than taking care of my brother, i just spoiled myself. i even baked a birthday cake for me, and for supper my brother and i shared a piece. he thought that was pretty cool!!

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