I Got The Look And I Didn’t Ask For It


When you think you are helping someone, you get the look! I called the Scooter Company, while my brother was eating his lunch. I wanted to see if there was any help for him to help him be able to go more places and keep some of his independence. I got the look. The shaking of the head back and forth in a no direction. Al hates being talked about. Only if it is something good or funny that he doesn’t mind. He got so angry with me because I was answering their questions. Actually, I have been afraid to see if we could get him a chair. The cost of them even with medicare, leaves us with a twenty percent out-of-pocket expense. He heard me telling the representative about his diagnosis, and his age, and birth date. He finished eating and went straight to his room shaking his head all the way. I tried to ignore him, as I knew this would better him. By the time I got off the phone, he was already fast asleep. I also worry, because I won’t be able to pick this new chair up, if he is approved. Medicare will pay for it, this is approved already, now it isย  up to the doctor that we now go to see on this Friday. If he is willing to fill out the paper work. I think he will be, but you never know for sure until you hear the word yes. In order to be able to use this chair to take places I will have to do something about our car. I don’t know about a lift, and what it costs, or if it will even fit on our car. I guess I will pray about it and worry after I know if he gets the chair or not for sure. I had run Al and me to the store and bought a new stain for the rocker. It was a quick in and out of store thing, so Al didn’t have any problems with this today. Here is a picture of the finished rocker. It is outside drying, and soon they will be able to take it home and the little one will be able to rock all he wants. It makes me feel good when I can place smiles on others faces. It makes me also feel useful. I think this is why I have mainly been only a mom and a caregiver most of my life. I did have my antique business, but it was more seasonal. I would love to get back into this one day. It is nice and quiet in here with Al sleeping, so I think I will go out in the yard and water my flower bulbs. Out of twelve, four are now peeking out of the ground. Talk to you soon.

34 thoughts on “I Got The Look And I Didn’t Ask For It

  1. I recently started looking into getting my mother inlaw a scooter, too. Those things are REALLY heavy. I think the best way to transport it might be using one of those hitch mounted carrier, with ramp. I’m kind of curious what your setup will be ๐Ÿ™‚
    BTW, great looking rocking chair!

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    • thank you. i will see what happens if we get the chair. i can’t help but be a little worried, but they said with Al’s unsteadiness, they were afraid to try anything else where he may fall. plus thank you for the comment on the rocker!

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      • if you continue to read my blogs, u can see the new chair. the power chair is way too expensive. i also would have had to buy a lift, pay a garage to install it and adjust the suspension. very expensive. this one comes apart, i can load it in the trunk. it goes five to six hours on one charge. has variable speed, and it was 900

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  2. I like the rocker, you did a great job!

    Getting a power chair will be great for Al, I pray it will go through. He may be a little upset today, but if he gets the power chair he will be happy to be able to maneuver himself around.

    Walk daily with God at your side!

    Ed

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  3. Praying that the new chair works out! That would be so nice! And how smart of you to think of it! ๐Ÿ™‚ Hoping Al comes around and shakes his head yes when he gets zooming around in it! love and prayers!

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  4. I’m sure he will get the scooter…If you can get a fold-a-way scooter perhaps it would collapse and fit into the trunk of the car..It would likely not be too heavy for you to lift….Diane

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  5. Al will probably see the benefits once he gets to try it out…Hope the tyransporting issue can be worked out for you…I love the chair…but, refinishing something to me is a hard job…You made it sound like good therapy for you though…So get another item and go for it! ~mkg

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  6. We got a second hand one for Husband only weeks before he went into care (of course we didn’t know that was going to happen when we got the scooter). If you lived closer I would give it to you!

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  7. Terry, I don’t know how you could be anymore useful. Your day to day care for Al is a testament of your love for him. Sometimes we don’t realize we are doing the most important work of our life.
    We box our puzzle pieces of the day and wonder what we accomplished. Your box is a 24/7 response to a need giving you very little time for yourself. Oh if more people could be as unselfish as you are. Your life is Al is a book you need to write. It would help many others in the same situation you are in. God bless.

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    • that is an interesting idea. thank you for saying these wonderful words. you see me so differently than i see myself. i see me as someone who can do nothing more for him but let him know i am here and i love him

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      • Terry, your blog here is a resolution of a book. Keep every one you write along with any journals or notes you have made. God takes the hard and difficult times and turns them around for good. He also doesn’t waste anything. Every move you make for Al, every moment you are placing him above yourself is a God given gift many don’t have. I for one don’t know how or if I could do what you are doing. It is easy to give up, but it is hard to continue and press on. Keep pressing and watch what God does.

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      • i am just an every day girl trying to show my brother i care. writing a book, i have thought about this on and off today. i assume i would need someone to guide me as i know nothing of writing books, although i would love to share my story with others who are suffering what we are suffering through, so they do not feel alone

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  8. Speaking of looks, I love the new blog look. Very inviting. And ignore Al’s look. If the scooter comes through, he will enjoy it and forget how it got there. Have a great day! Sandy

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    • thank you Sandy for the comment on the blog page. i was messing around and came upon the idea by accident. i love butterflies. Al did get his scooter, which i am very thankful for

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      • THAT’S SOOOO GREAT! I only have the basic WP. My husband wants me to upgrade but I’m having a crisis of confidence, I think. What he really wants me to do is get the whole webpage thing that WP offers for $99. I guess I need to ask others what they think of the upgrade. (Not whether I should do it, but if they’ve done it and if they like it, LOL) Sandy

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