You Can Help


I took this photo a couple of days ago. I was over by the hospital here in my city, and before I could see it, I heard it. It gave me moments enough to get the camera ready.

Unless, it is something that I am aware of happening, such as a county fair where they are offering rides from this beautiful creature, I don’t care much to see them.

Someone’s life may be depending on this bird. A baby that needs extra help, maybe an accident victim, that this hospital realized in time that it needed more help, and sent it off to the next biggest city.

This reminds me of one time when I was younger. I had only one child at the time, and I had taken  her and myself in the car to run an errand. On the way to town, I saw a speeding EMS, racing the opposite direction of the way I was going. Its lights were on and you could  hear the screaming sirens, alerting all of us drivers to get off of the road. Someone needed help ASAP! My daughter didn’t understand much at that age, so I wondered in my own mind, as to what had happened, and if I knew who was in it.

She and I proceeded with my plan. I don’t remember anymore what it was, but most likely, in that time frame of my life, I was probably going to the sewing center. There was a point in time, when I was determined to sew. I knew the basics, and with help from family members, I was able to sew little dresses for my daughter and little matching bonnets. I never cared for sewing, after it took six weeks to make one pincushion in junior high. If I had an inkling of favor towards sewing, that took my desire away, but for my daughter, I would try it once again. It did last one summer!

When we arrived home from our errands, I started preparing supper for hubby, daughter and myself. I laid Rachael, daughter’s name, down for her nap, so I could concentrate on making the perfect supper, but let me tell you, it was never perfect in my eyes. lol. After hubby got home from his job we ate, and as I was cleaning up the kitchen we received a knock at the front door. My husband opened it and came to get me telling me it was the pastor, and that he wanted to speak to me. I thought nothing of it really, because I attended church and this may have to do something with this, and the other reason I didn’t think much of it, is because when we are in our early years, twenties, which to me this is a very young age now, we don’t think of death or bad things.

I went in to speak to him and he asked me to sit down. He told me that my love of my life, the man I looked up to, the one who taught me about life, had passed away from a heart attack. He had been driving down the high way and the attack happened, causing him to  cross over the center line. He was hit straight on by a semi-truck.

I don’t remember too much, but I do remember collapsing into the couch, and the smiles that I had carried through out that day, were nowhere to be found. My heart was crushed. This was my first real memory of losing someone I loved dearly. The EMS that I had seen earlier, was the same one who was racing my grandpa to the hospital.

Today, over thirty years later, I still remember him with fond memories. Each time I see a speeding EMS or a helicopter in the air, I say a prayer for the person needing help and I say an extra prayer for the family and friends that know this loved one.

God only knows our perfect timing. He knows our beginning and our ending. It may not be a  fatality, but I want to do my part in asking God to help who ever is in need of help. God hears each of our prayers, no matter how small or how big. You never know if you have helped save a person’s life, while driving down the road, but by praying you are asking the only one who can create miracles.

34 thoughts on “You Can Help

  1. Wonderful post … and remembering of your father (I suppose it was) and remembering of all the wonderful staff that helps us when we are in need. Love this post, Terry. Thanks by the way for the award … you are such a darling to me.

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    • thank you for the nice comment you left my friend. and as far as the award?? just sit back and enjoy it and realize that there are people out here who are crazy about you and your bog sites, like me!!!!

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  2. What a memory…sad, yet in your sharing it a message will be learned by many. I know how you feel about seeing an ambulance or Lifeflight heliocopter. I often wonder if it is someone I know, or I ponder where it could be coming from or going to. If it is headed our way I wonder if it is someone from our church in it or one of the local nursing homes or senior centers. If it is headed to the east or south or north of us I wonder which hospital they are going to and sometimes that tells me more about the age of the person…north is usually headed to the children’s hospital. I’m the same way with military heliocopters. if it is headed south I know it is headed to a local base, anywhere else and I’m wondering what is going on and where and I immediately turn on the news to see if there is any local news on what might be happening. Depending on the situation my mind often goes in prayer for what might be happening. I’m the same way when I see accidents.

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    • one of the nicest things God has done for me with aging, is give me more compassion for life and people. i find myself always wishing i could help everyone, and i realize i can not, but i CAN pray for all. thank you for your very nice comment, my dear friend

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      • You do give by caring for your brother, and I’m sure that one day you will hear these words from the Lord for doing so…”Well done thou good and faithful servant.” Right now that is who God has given you to minister to for him. But I know how you feel. I don’t control the money in our famil and it is a good thing because I would be giving it to everyone I saw that needed help. Don tends to be a penny-pincher with money, and his views of charities and people in need has been tainted through life experience. He has seen others take advantage of the welfare system in the name of helping their children and then use the money for drugs and alcohol. We both have seen people who begged on the street saying they were homeless, who were not, and I even knew a family who did it to buy a big screen tv and a new car for themselves. We both have had an experience where someone borrowed money supposedly to take care of a family financial need and then go on a drug binge instead with the money they were lent. So Don is happy to give to the church and to church missions, knowing that the money will be used for its said purpose. Even without the money to help, I have found other ways to help people, from sewing an oxygen backpack for a toddler who needed it to be with his father on their farm and so he could play like other kids, to making holiday dinners for veterans who lived in a trailer park behind my house. I think anything you can do to feel a need you see, even if the recipient hasn’t requested that help is blessed by God. The blessing though lies in why you do it. In other words are you doing it to bring glory on yourself (vain glory in the Bible) or are you doing it out of love and compassion? We shouldn’t let the deeds we do bring glory to ourselves, but do them in a way that it brings glory to God.

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      • isn’t it just so sad when people use the system for their benefit. gaining TV’s and cars and what ever else they can get by with. the world used to be a better place, nicer people, safer neighborhoods, and more God in the family home. when you remove God from the public, it shows in all walks of life

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      • i don’t think of what i can gain, is ever my motive for doing something to help for others. it is just my nature, but this also allows me to be used, and when i am on a limited income, money has to be managed, and so i need to be strong enough, which is my weakness, to say no when people come to me. i would rather much help a stranger i know is in distress at this very moment, than to help those i love. i know this probably doesn’t make sense, but to me it does. my kids know my weak areas, and prey on it, not all my kids but at times some of them, and it is not me helping someone in need, as it is more guilt that i feel if i say no. does this make sense?

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  3. I know what you mean. Ambulances, fire trucks and police cars are constantly up and down the street I live on and I hate the sound of them. Monday at dinner time I heard a loud thud and discovered a van had plowed into the back of a small car. I went out and spoke with a lady who was watching. She had heard the bang too. A few minutes later another lady with a young girl came along, spoke in another language to this lady who turned to me and said, “That’s my cousin in the car!” She hadn’t been aware of it until then. Then yesterday around 9:45 am I heard another sickening thud. I looked out and saw a car in the middle of the intersection with the driver’s door smashed in. I have often prayed when I hear sirens passing. As I prayed for the people in those cars. As you said, we never know if our prayer will mean the difference between life and death for someone. I’m so sorry you had to learn of your grandfather’s death that way.

    On another note, I know what you mean about taking so long to finish a project in home ec (elementary school here). It took a whole year to finish a pair of shortie pyjamas! By then I already knew how to sew and could have made them in one sitting at home. That was boring, but it didn’t deter me from sewing. I sewed all my own clothes for many years, had a craft business for several years and did a mountain of sewing for that. Now I never have the incentive to sew though I have a pile of fabric sitting here doing nothing and an expensive computerized sewing machine and a serger. Maybe some day. Can’t say when I’m old and gray, because I’m already pretty close to the old part and have been gray for years. 🙂

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    • for about the past month, when my mind has time to wander, i think about why i am so tired. i don’t know if it is from taking care of Al, getting no relief, or the fact that i am getting older. it sometimes worries me, and i try to usually not think about it as only God knows my ending date. i remember too well, a gentleman who worked with my ex who had complained for some time on how tired he was. he was tired when he got up, through the day, and at night. he did have a fatal heart attack during this time. sometimes i become a panic maniac. i take words that i hear and i store them in my own memory box saving them for later to use on my own days of not feeling well. i hate it, but i do it, but i do know anymore, i am tired every day. tonight i just wanted to scream at my brother but i didn’t. i did not want to fix his supper. he is routine, supper at six, and i am not always hungry. sometimes i am satisfied with a bowl of cereal for supper, but not him. fix a meal, it is his time to eat, so i did, but i was tired, i just didn’t want to

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      • Stress can make you tired all the time. I think you have been under even more stress than you realize and it does take its toll. You may not be eating enough of the right foods either. But I know what you mean when you don’t feel like making supper. I was like that tonight and so just made a sandwich. But every day for lunch I have a smoothie with several fruits, sometimes spinach, parsley, sometimes alfalfa sprouts, today half a cooked beet, carrot juice, coconut milk, almond milk, plain yogurt, ginger root, sometimes pomegranate and berry juice. Sometimes I’ll throw in a big glob of peanut butter, sometimes a couple of spoons of cocoa for a flavor change. It makes a full blender jug full and I drink the whole thing, so it’s packed with good nutrition – all fresh foods. And it only takes a few minutes to make. No pots and pans to wash, either. 🙂

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      • maybe i should try this fresh fruit or veggie drink. it may help. i am a diabetic on oral medications and try not to eat very much for raising my blood sugars, there fore i do not eat properly. my sugars have been out of whack for years. the doctors don’t want me to go on insulin as i can keep them at a fair number by my diet, but what they don’t realize is i omit so many foods out of my eating, that i am probably doing harm in some ways, like being tired. i don’t want to go on insulin either, but sometimes maybe it would benefit me in the long run

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  4. A similar thing happened to me. We were driving and suddenly all these ambulances were flying down the street so I pulled over quickly. I felt a connection to the ambulance for some reason and said a prayer as it went by. The next morning I learned that one of my student’s mother was in a horrible crash and died. It was the same road and the time was right, and I really believe that ambulance I saw was her. It is funny how things work.
    May your Grandpa rest in peace. 🙂

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  5. i can somewhat relate, my Grandfather who was away in Florida for the winter when i was a kid, in perfect health dropped dead of a heart attack. i was devastated, my other Grandfather, died soon after unexpectedly as well…man it’s brutal. Sorry for how you lost him.
    On a side note, the helicopter caught my attention, as my Hubby is a rookie Helicopter Pilot. hopefully starting his first job, this summer!.

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  6. I don’t blame you for not wanting to go on insulin. Actually it has been proven that you can reverse diabetes with diet and possibly some nutritional supplementation. If you make a large smoothie, you could drink it over a period of a couple of hours to make sure you don’t get too much sugar at once. Fruit sugar, though, works differently than refined sugar and it takes the pancreas twice as long to process it. That means the sugar doesn’t get into your blood stream so quickly and cause problems. The greens would also give you energy and lots of good vitamins and iron (spinach). You can also add a green powder such as barley greens, or protein powder, etc. to add to the nutrition.

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    • so if i made a fruit blend, i just use any fruits, and it becomes mushy enough to drink? what about a veggie drink, the same way, but using any veggies? is there some fruit or veggie i should not use because of taste? any past experiences you want to share good or bad?

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      • I always start with a banana then add a slice of fresh pineapple, half an avocado, a few berries (strawberries, blackberries, blueberries), a couple of slices of mango when I have it, and sometimes a slice of melon (any kind), or a kiwi fruit or seedless grapes. I do not like the texture of apples or oranges in a smoothie. Also grapefruit are too strong a flavor and tend to overpower. I usually use about 4 different fruits – use your favorites if you don’t like any of these. Then I add a handful of spinach, a handful of parsley, and, when I have it, half a medium-sized cooked beet. (This is all with the fruit.) I then slice up a 2″-3″ piece of fresh ginger root. Then I add between 1/2 to 3/4 cup of plain yogurt (I like the Astro Balkan style best, but don’t know if you can get that where you live). I buy Bolthouse carrot juice and add about 1/3 to 1/2 cup of that. Then I sometimes add some Oasis pomegranate and berry juice (1/3 cup) and then 1 cup or more of almond milk (the blender jug is about 3/4 full by then). You can use regular milk, rice milk or soy milk if you like. Occasionally I add about a tablespoon of peanut butter and/or a teaspoon or two of cocoa. Then I blend on high for at least one minute, perhaps 1-1/2 minutes (I don’t time it). Then simply pour and enjoy! I hope this helps.

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      • this has helped a lot. thank you!!!! i will try it to after visiting the grocery store next time. it sounds delicious Success!!!

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      • Thank you Terry. I’m honored. But I’m afraid I will have to ask you what this award is. I have never been nominated for any awards before nor, until recently, been aware of their existence. Thanks again.

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      • this particular award is given by me because i love your blog. the ten commandments is the representation of the ten things you must answer on the ten questions. then you are to nominate ten other nominees, and give credit back to me. it is a little time consuming, but on the other hand this is a brand new award!

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