The Rain, I Received This In An Email, And I Couldn’t Help But Shed A Tear

The Rain


It was a busy morning, about 8:30,

when an elderly gentleman in his 80’s arrived

to have stitches removed from his thumb.

He said he was in a hurry as he

had an appointment at 9:00 am.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat,

knowing it would be over an hour before

someone would to able to see him.

I saw him looking at his watch and

decided, since I  was not busy with

another patient, I would evaluate

his wound. On exam, it was
well healed, so I talked to one of the

doctors, got the needed supplies to
remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he

had another doctor’s appointment this morning,

as he was in such a hurry.
The gentleman told me no, that he needed

to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast

with his wife. I enquired as to her health.
He told me that she had been there for a while

and that she was a victim of Alzheimer’s Disease.
As we talked, I asked if she would be

upset if he was a bit late.
He replied that she no longer knew who he was,

that she had not recognized him in
five years now.


I was surprised, and asked him, ‘And you still

go every morning, even though she

doesn’t know who you are?’
He smiled as he patted my hand and said,
She doesn’t know me, but I still know who she is.’

I had to hold back tears as he left, I had

goose bumps on my arm, and thought,
 ‘That is the kind of love I want in my life.’
True love is neither physical, nor romantic.

True love is an acceptance of all that is,

has been, will be, and will not be.

17 thoughts on “The Rain, I Received This In An Email, And I Couldn’t Help But Shed A Tear

  1. When I worked in hospital, I often saw people coming in to feed, wash and just sit with their alzheimer’s /dementia afflicted spouse. It was very touching. Now that I work in the community, I see that same commitment in my patients’ homes. These couples exemplify “in sickness and in health, till death do us part.”


  2. Sad, sad, sad; and oh so true for so many… One of the chaps at our Sunday social is slowly losing his memory. He can’t remember the dances, and seems a little lost on the floor. His partner told me that she is losing her patience with him and feels terrible about that. Unfortunately, it is a sad state that many are living… Reminds me to live life as much to the full as is possible in whatever circumstances we happen to live…. Thanks for posting this, Terry… and have as good a day as is possible to have…! 🙂


    • yes Carolyn, these things happen and it reminds us to live life to the fullest. we never know as we grow older what will come along and snatch our life away from us. tonight has been a night just for me, i am more relaxed……thank you my friend for this wonderful comment


  3. This reminds me about the movie – “Away from her” (2006) with fantastic acting of Julie Christie, as an Alzheimer’s patient – where she forgets her husband, even if he visit her every day and falls in love with an other man on the care-home. A wonderful film and but a very naked reality.


      • It’s a fantastic movie … Julie Christie got the Golden Globe and where Oscar nominated for her part. Must be terrible to be the bystander … when it hits somebody you love.


  4. My cousin’s father-in-law had Alzheimer’s and his wife went to feed him every day. He had been a Baptist minister and he was blind. For some reason, some Alzheimer’s patients develop personality traits opposite of what they had been like. This was the case with him and he would swear at her. Eventually he died, and not long after, his wife ended up in the same hospital room with Alzheimer’s. It certainly was a sad affair. It is a horrible condition and all too common.

    I have heard of the movie Viveka mentioned but have not seen it. Another movie about Alzheimer’s is “Iris” and is from a true story about a writer who developed Alzheimer’s and how her husband took care of her.


    • I will have to find this movie called Iris. I have taken care of many patients with Alzheimers, and the ministers were always the worst patients. They cussed like sailors and bit and pinched. We always said that these things they said now were what was hiding inside of them while they were living a godly life. hehe, now they could let it out and no one would say a word. the story you talk about is tragic how the wife then ended up in the hospital. that is so sad………….thank u for sharing with me


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