Think of a time you let something slide, only for it to eat away at you later. Tell us how you’d fix it today.
My mother that raised me was my step-mother. She started raising me when I was five years old. I don’t remember too much about those years with her, although I remember many good times with my grandpa. My mom walked into a ready-made family when she married my dad, and I don’t remember anything bad about our relationship, until my sister was born. I am sure I was jealous, and I made her life harder, than it should have been.
I never went out of my way to bond with her. I only saw her paying more attention to my dad and that new baby. There were many times that we got a long fine, and there were plenty of times when I could have been a better daughter.
When I finally grew up, we were closer because I was not such a brat, but still, the bonding was never there. I remember a few times it was mom, that was there when I was in trouble, and mom that understood my tears.
As I got older and older, I realized how ungrateful I was to her, and it bugged me that she had reached out to me for so many years, and I had not reached back. After a few more years went by, I came to know God much better than I had in the past,and I made up my mind that I was going to confess to mom my feelings, and how it was never her fault for our relationship fall outs, that it was mine.
When I told her she cried, and told me she loved me as well as she could. This hurt me bad, but I had it coming. I had never given her a chance. For the next two years, I worked hard at our relationship. I spent many more moments with her. I shared my own life with her, and I opened up quite a bit.
I am forever grateful to God for helping me see my errors, because he knew my future. He knew that in those two years that I made great efforts getting to know my mom, was going to be a life changing experience for me.
One day at the end of that two-year period, my mother fell ill suddenly. I got the phone call while I was at my job, and I left immediately, and arriving at the hospital, I could tell that something was seriously wrong. Things did not look good.
My mother knew or sensed it too somewhere in her mind, because when she saw me, even though she was acting out of character, she started patting me on the shoulder over and over. I felt at that moment, that precise moment, she was forgiving me and hugging me like a little girl. She was telling me that it was alright, that she loved me. Right there I was so thankful that I had let go of my pride and had reached out to her, because seven days later, she passed away.
I have never once regretted making the choice I did. God knows our life, and he knows our future. He knew that I would never be able to live with myself, if I didn’t make things right. God is amazing, and he is real. There are many times I could sit here and write about events that happened due to God being by my side, but this particular time, sticks out more than any other, when I put my childish pride and jealousy aside and grew up, and appreciated what I had before it was too late.
Thank you for sharing terrry. Wiping away a tear. This is so moving and I’m so glad that you reached out to your mom the way you did.
*hugs*
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I am glad that you enjoyed reading my prompt Happy. It was hard for me to write, going back in my past, but it helped me too
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It takes courage, compassion, and love to share a story such as this. Thank you.
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thank you so much, and feel free to stop by and chat anytime, even bring your coffee or hot chocolate!!!
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So nice. You are an angel.
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thank u, but i guarantee, i have no angel wings…….lol
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Lovely and inspiring, thank you.
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thank you so much Cobble!!!!
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Reconciliation is a gift – I’m glad you had it with your mother before it was too late. Good for you.
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so am I Sheila. While I have you here,,,,,,,,may I ask a question? Polly the nine week pup is peeing all the time in the house. She goes outside and comes in and goes inside. I am desperately wanting to crate train her all the time. What is the schedule I should use for this? In the crate except feeding and outside potty time? Help me please. I am so frustrated I am about ready to give up
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I really never used a crate with a puppy so I’m probably not the one to ask, but that being said, I can tell you that puppies pee a lot and the best way to train them is get into a little routine where you pick her up immediately after she eats and take her out and praise her profusely when she pees outside. Also, pick her up and take her out when she’s finished playing around. Also, pick her up any time you see her sniffing around inside. Also, pick her up and take her out right after naps and before naps. Get the picture? Having a puppy requires taking them out A LOT and then telling her what a Good Girl when she pees outside.
Having a puppy is a huge responsibility and kinda like having children. They poop and pee but they will learn to go in the right place if you have the patience.
I’m not sure this was the best time in your life with what’s going on with Al to get a puppy? Or maybe it’s the best time for the same reason? Have you had a puppy before? Sometimes we forget what they’re like when we’ve had old dogs for a while!! Me, too!
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i have never had a puppy, and i feel bad that she gets on my nerves. i will try harder to watch. thank u for your help
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Please don’t feel bad. Puppies are aggravating, but she might grow on you!
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I am an old sap. I love her to death, she just drives me crazy!!! lol
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Thanks Terry for sharing this. I agree with comments. It takes a lot of courage to open yourself up. I’m so happy that you managed to reconcile yourself with your mother. We always think we’ll have time to say all the things we never said, but unfortunately it’s not always true.
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yes, u r right, we do not know the minute, nor the hour. thank u for stopping by and chatting. feel free to come by any time. i love having nice friends!!
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Mother and daughter relationship is very tricky – because it’s a relationship between two women. Doesn’t matter if it was your own mum or stepmom. I’m sure she knew and she accepted you and she loved you all the time. Terry, maybe it was her that touched your heart and made you reach out to her. You can reach anyone if their heart isn’t open for you.
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for a long time i did not want to reach out to her. I was so angry with her for taking my dad away from me, but I am glad I finally grew up
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My mum and I have a bit strange relationship too *smile
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I am so, so glad you had the time to reach out to her again! Beautiful.
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I am very grateful that God led me to do what was right, while I still had the chance
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I’m so glad you had the chance to make things right with her.
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me too. I was a real brat when I was younger!
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It always takes courage to admit that one is/was wrong, and then to act on it. 🙂
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