“And they lived happily ever after.” Think about this line for a few minutes. Are you living happily ever after? If not, what will it take for you to get there?
This is so opposite of my feelings today, I don’t know whether to laugh or cry. I have been in hay stacks. Every once in a while if you look close you can see my head pop up for fresh air.
This prompt today is not going to bring anything but the plain ugly truth about life. I gave up fairy tales and princess and princes years ago as I walked a way from my divorce. Now I choose to cling to God and friendships like there is no tomorrow.
I don’t carry much faith in the human race on the surface. I do trust my friends let me affirm this.
I am not living happily ever after because I don’t think it is a reality part of life. To live this way would entail all humans to think of others before themselves first most. It would require God to be in every heart. We would see the good and understand the bad in each other.
The judging of character would vanish into thin air. Our nation would be considered as one, united together to bring peace among those who walk this earth.
I don’t know what actually goes on inside your home. I only know what I read on here. If I am extremely bored, I will flip on the television and watch the wildly entertaining news. Anchormen who are geared to show us the worst of the world.
On the news channel I watch there is a tiny segment that is saved for one, just one good thing that happened some where in the world. It is so sad that what sells is tragedy, gossip, money, sex, and vulgar language.
In my own home I work very hard with the help of God and all of you to remain as up-beat as possible about life. It doesn’t take much to burst those balloons flying over my head by callous remarks.
I won’t take you through the back door and let you see the ugly things I am dealing with at this time. But, I can give you one example. Let me reach my hands into the hay stack and pull out the first thing my fingers touch.
Ah yes, here is a good one. Maybe just a perfect way of letting you understand the greed in the world today. You may know immediately how you would react to next paragraphs. Or, you may need to ponder on it for a few minutes. Here is one of my issues.
A couple of years back I wanted to be as prepared for anything that I could as far as my brother is concerned. You know the saying, get er done. I contacted a funeral home and discussed funeral arrangements for Al. Together the owner and I set up a prepaid expense funeral. I knew the dollar amount per month and all of the fine details.
She in turn took the information and sent it to an insurance company and in a couple of weeks I received the policy in the mail. What do you do with these? The same thing I did. File it in the safe, hopefully to not have to look at it for years to come.
Without realizing it at the time it would come up in conversation later on, but not because Al passed away, but because it is technically considered a life insurance policy now. Al is on Medicaid and things have now changed and not for the good.
The policy is as far as I know not going to be considered an allowable expense, since the title says Life Insurance Policy. I won’t go into the details but I know in my heart that this is for a prepaid funeral.
The kicker of this whole thing is I was told from Al’s facility that I should just sneak into his room and sell his coke items if I wanted his funeral paid, because they were taking even more money now from him since the payments are going to be considered null and void.
How would you react if they were talking about your brother, or mother or father? My heart has been broken so badly I don’t even know if super glue could hold it together. I am on the phone and in meetings opening every door possible for Al.
I need to do what others are not. I am looking at Al as my brother, a human life, God’s child. He deserves dignity and respect no matter what illness or disability he has. What I am working on now is hopefully the best shot Al will ever have on this earth, but it takes time, as all government issues do.
I am not depressed but I am very sad. I am a fighter and I will give it all I have to give Al the very best of happily ever after there is. I know that we are down to very little choices, but as each door is forced opened, I gain more hope.
This is just a bit of what is going on in my part of the world. I carry faith and hope but I refuse to have my balloon stuck with one more needle. Landing on the cold ground does not feel good. I will continue to live in the reality and dream about the happily ever after.
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What?!?!?! This is horrible to say to someone! Is there a county dept of aging you can contact for help with this? I can’t imagine how decanted and steamed you are about this!!!
I don’t know. I am still in touch with the government programs and have told them what she said, but each department seems to not get involved with other departments
I used to have an office on the grounds of a large local church. The church had a community outreach coordinator who knew the ins and outs of assistance and advice programs. Is there a church nearby that offers something similar?
I have went to our church so many times and each time I asked a question, no one knew anything. I finally quit asking. Once the minister has been to see Al in almost four months
Auto correct again. I have no idea if you are decanted. But I imagine you are devastated. I guess the universe is trying to make us laugh a little.
maybe, all i know is the poor are who get hurt the most
Wow Terry! You’ve really opened your heart up with this post. No metaphors on fairytales- just you and the reality you deal with.
I admire that. Thanks for sharing.
Wish you much inspiration.
thank you so much my friend. I usually write from my heart and soul
this is just more gov’t taking from the poor. How can they even consider negating this whether it is burial plan or life insurance??? There has to be someone (social worker?) that can help muddle through this or perhaps funeral home will buy back so you can bank the funds jn your name to be used when needed. I hopr you can work thru this.
would you believe me if i told you it was the social service director that said this? yep it’s true. i did check the policy. they will give us back about a fourth of what we have paid these past two years
Now that really stinks! What do they expect people to do? this is such an outrage, if I can think of anything else I will let you know. this is just bad behavior of our medicare system
thank you my friend
And why is this story so typical…? It’s really sad where we all ended up. It’s all ’bout taking, having & taking even more. I’m so sorry you had to experience this “shit” (I’m sorry but I don’t find a nicer way to call it, I think I’m both angry & sad after reading this post)! I hope from all my heart that Al lives long in best condition and gets many wonderful moments from life!
And about the happily ever after… I think it all depends on how we see things. Everything can have a positive and negative side. My life may not be all perfect but I forget easily the bad, move on and enjoy the good. And I’m kind of thankful for this memory error of mine;). I believe life won’t be easy for me as it hasn’t been always easy, but I also have much hope in wining all difficulties that cross my way. All moments spent in peace & joy are already a happy ever after. And what will happen in 10 years…? Life will show, but I do not expect no more.
Best wishes to you & Al!
thank you so much for commenting Julita! I have always jumped at hope and then fall so hard. I am trying to be more realistic realizing that life is not all cherries and whip cream. I can’t make it all better alone, but I hope that I will never give up my dreams and hope deep within. bless you my friend
I completely understand in a sad way – I am facing similar stuff.
I don’t like knowing that you have to suffer in a similar way. you are too nice of a person
Thank you for sharing your views about this prompt, Terry . ..and your love of God, friends and Al. God bless you as you fight on!
Keep trusting in God and doing your best, Terry…it will be worth it if you follow Him. For some reason ‘let your hope make you glad’ came into my head after reading this post. I’ll share something I share a long time ago on my blog with you. Hopefully the verses will lift you up a bit. Sending good thoughts your way! http://brianwilliamsen.wordpress.com/2011/06/14/let-your-hope-make-you-glad/
thank you Brian , those verses fit me so perfect. I still have hope. It is just that I have to face reality that not all of us feel the same as I do about humans
Humans are flawed, I know that much. I sure am. I understand what you wrote in your post. Glad that the verses meant something to you. Have a great night Terry!
you are such a good friend. I so appreciate knowing you
what in the world!… You…trying to do what is right for Al..and then someone comes and does this…Is this policy in your name or Al’s??? wouldn’t that make a difference?…
it is in his name, it is his funeral, the difference is it says life insurance, instead of funeral bill