Daily Prompt; Perspective/ The Daily Post


Do You Really Want to Hurt Me

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Write about the last disagreement you had with a friend or family member — from their perspective.

I don’t know about you but the only people I disagree with and try so very hard not to get into arguments are with my children. Isn’t is a sad thing? I hear that families disagree more than any other unit out there.

My kids they really love me and they are not afraid to voice their thoughts when they see me heading towards murky waters. I realize that they know me pretty darn well. I understand that they want the best for me. I have even heard them tell me they want me to be happy.

It is actually the best thing about having children in my eyes. They may not come visit near enough in my book of rules. But they are the cat’s meow in my life. Showing me unconditional love.

I absolutely hate it when we tar and feather each other. Like chickens we peck at each other trying to sway us that they are right and I am wrong. Our beaks hurt each other and leave small scars beneath the surface.

I get both sides. They are the children wanting the best and I am the mom. I have made it all through my life with the only boss that really made me listen were my parents. I have gone through marriages and divorces and am still standing.

I have dealt with so much crap with my brother that I should only be found by using a fork lift and sifting through the manure. So it only makes sense that my children realize my  pain and  grief. They want to take care of me from a distance so to say.

They don’t live with me. They do not see what my eyes do. Nor do they hear what I hear. None the less it is awesome to know that they love me enough to throw their two cents in. If they ever quit doing this I will be worried for sure. Silence can mean lack of caring.

I just wish the poisoned darts were not tossed at each other. We are all sharp shooters never missing the target. We each know exactly where to throw those darts that will cause the biggest pain. They aren’t really trying to hurt me. They are trying to do what they can to wake me up to what they are trying to express.

Being a mother is not just giving birth. It is to include changing dirty diapers, pacing the nights trying to calm a crying baby. Feeding and doctor’s appointments. Educating and nurturing. You have a big party when you watch them walk to receive their diplomas.

In a way that is only the first couple of stages of having a child. When they are grown and move out of the nest they still need you. It is just in different ways. They need and have the right to know that parents still love them. Realizing that we would lay our lives down for them in order not to have them hurt as we were.

But in the end after all the love is shown and tears are shed together, the ultimate hurt is the disagreements. But we have to go through these moments in order to keep growing in our love for each other. I love ya kids!!!!!!!

15 thoughts on “Daily Prompt; Perspective/ The Daily Post

  1. Parents’ unconditional love for the children – one of the greatest love I’ve ever known (speaking as a parent). And it is so true – “we have a big party when they receive their diplomas”.

    I used to tell my youngest and only daughter among four siblings: “My dear, do you realize how much you are helping us by graduating from college? You liberate us from having to pay tuition fees, contributions, and your pocket money”. And she would say, “that is why I don’t like to graduate because I hate to imagine that I will be losing my daily allowance!!”

    But the good news was she finally graduated after 9 years in college (for a supposedly 4-year course) from her sixth school in a row.!! Phew! Now she is a nurse and a child of her own.

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    • and you were so much a part of her success dad!!! I am so proud of your daughter. She stuck through it and she did it. The allowance? She will appreciate using her own monies to budget and enjoy her allowance out of the left overs. Good job raising her Maxim!!! You are so special

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