Are You Looking At Me?

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Today I woke up tired and stayed that way the rest of the day. I had to go have my brother and my taxes done first thing this morning. After getting through that without any major scare issues I had a doctor’s appointment. It was my check-up from  lab work.


The doc explained about the Potassium and what he think happened and how potassium works once the blood hits the bottle. All in all, I was quite pleased. I lost three pounds. My levels were all good except the blood sugars, but they were lower than last time, so he ended up saying,” You’re doing a good job”. That just made me feel good but I was too tired to almost smile, but I was smiling on the inside.


I noticed when I left the doctor’s office that my front passenger tire was low. Oh not again. Darn it. This is the second time I have put air in that tire. I have good tread left on all my tires. No one has found any nails etc, so what was going on?


I stopped and had more air put in by the nice gas attendant then headed off to the tire store. They checked out the tire and found the stem was leaking so to change stems and replace air it cost me $12.50.


While I was sitting in the waiting area there was an elderly gentleman sitting. He was maybe ten years or so older than me.  I had been talking to the sales guys since I knew them and this older customer made some comment to what we were talking about.


Then this guy motions for me to come over and sit by him, so I do. I thought chit-chat, something to do to pass the time. He says,” Do you work?”


I say, “No I am disabled.”


“Do you live alone?”


“No, my brother lives with me.” I know I lied but hey, I didn’t know this guy from Adam.


“Do you ever get lonely? Do you like dining out alone? Do you ever wish you had someone to go to McDonalds with?”


I thought, What is this 20 questions? Am I on Candid Camera? Are you hitting on me? Sorry friends, it’s been so long since I have been hit on, I didn’t know.


He said my last name is blah blah blah. In the phone book I am the first one listed under that name. Call me if you want to go out. I’m your guy.  I didn’t say anything. He just wasn’t my cup of tea. In between his questions he was letting me know that he goes to bars. He has been stopped by the police for drunk driving. He has lost his license due to drinking in the past but he has it back.


He had lost his wife to cancer a year and three months ago. Suddenly my heart felt compassion for him as I knew he was a lonely man. But for me I couldn’t go out with him. I don’t want to date anyone who drinks and even gets arrested for drunk driving. I thanked him and stood up and used the ladies room.


When I got out my car was done. After I paid the bill the older guy was holding the door  open for me and I told him thanks. When I got in the car I smiled to myself and said, hey girl you still got it at 58, or if he was just so lonely he was desperate, thanks for picking me. It boosted my morale.



24 thoughts on “Are You Looking At Me?

    • thanks Gloria! It felt good to be noticed even if it was by the town drunk!! LOL I was so tired because I think I felt such quick relief at the doc’s office it made me actually tired. I get stressed on doc appointments. Can you tell?


  1. Sometimes it just feels good to be noticed. We don’t necessarily have to do anything about it. 🙂 Glad your doctors appt. went well Terri.


  2. Sometimes people just need a friendly social interaction, and you gave that to him. All of us need to feel connected, and he probably has a gigantic hole in his heart since he lost his wife. It was nice of you not to ignore him, and give him the gift he needed at that moment. Life is full of opportunities to make someone’s day just a wee bit better. So nice that you rose to the occasion.


    • I try very hard to never be rude. I try to also see what is going on in the other person’s life that is helping him or her to be the way or say the things they are at the very moment. Thanks so much my friend for your comment


  3. Hello my friend. As this gentleman spoke with you, for a fleeting moment, you were able to focus on you, and not the difficult times you have encountered. God knows what He is doing. By the same token, you brought a ray of light into this man’s life. Very nice of you to address him. Blessings.


  4. Oh terry what a wonderful thing you did that poor man was just lonely! Now I am going to go against what everyone here has said so far and tell you to call this gentleman…Have you thought that maybe his drinking and the problems that caused may be due to his lonliness and his grief that if you met him at the local MeD’s where it is nice open, public, safe and just had coffee and conversation that he might not drink? and it sure would be nice for you to be admired and appreciated you deserve it! I wouldn’t let him know where you live or your phone number until you were much better acquianted but I think you should do it. Pray on it and see what the Lord leds you to do. (((xx)))


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