Yesterday I called the facility to set up a meeting this morning with the Administrator. He tried to find out what it was about but I told him I would tell him when I arrived. This morning I said a small prayer to act like a responsible adult and not cry or act frustrated in front of this man.
I walked in calm and breathing normally. We shook hands. He smiled and I returned it. It is not hard to look at a young man with beautiful eyes and nice hair. LOL I told him everything. I spoke to him about Al sitting in the bathroom in his wheelchair while he had to figure out how to go pee when he didn’t need to.
I told him about the stolen candy. I mentioned the cookies that the nurse had made such a big deal about. I told him about my unexpected visits and how the two staff members jumped when they saw me there. I added that I want a staff to be near by when he is dressing in case of toppling over.
I spoke to him about the nurse who discussed Al’s weight loss in front of him. I explained how he went back to his room then telling another aide he was going to die because PD was taking his weight a way.
I tried to get my point across for the umpteenth time that no one should discuss Al’s health in front of him unless it is good news, as he builds a case around it for days.
I also reminded him that I had been talking with the nurses and charge nurse and I could get no where. Now I was at the top of the rank expecting help.
He told me to go out and replace the candy and bring him the receipt. He also said with a big smile that he would look into all of this. One thing I did appreciate was he was taking notes about the entire conversation.
So now I sit back and wait to see what happens……All in all I do pat myself on the back because I acted more like a mature caring adult then a hurt sister. But I did get the point across that Al is my brother and I will stop at nothing to ensure he is at much peace as possible through his journey of Parkinson’s.
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Well done you. Proud of you Terry
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thanks Alastair, thanks very much
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You are a wonderful sister to take such good care of your brother. God Bless you and your brother.
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thank you so much Billie!!!!! how kind of you………………
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Excellent … I’m sure that something good will come out of it. You brought up the most important issues … I know you did a great job, and that he listen to you. Here comes a hug from me ‘smile
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you just made me smile!!!!!
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I know you will still feel the smile… Stay strong, you and Al will be the better for it. Not sure who will help that good looking young man if they call down the wrath of Terry again..
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he was young enough to be my son, lol, married and two kids,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,I don’t want to date in that age group!!!! lol
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Wonderful! Here’s hoping this changes things for the better over all!
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oh i m so hoping!!!!
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I’m so happy and proud for you — it sounds like it might turn out to have been a productive meeting! You did good, girl!!! Hope this makes a big change for Al!
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i hope so too Becky. I want to make a difference
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Well done Terry, that was great and I am sure you made the right impression! Let us hope it helped and it will be noted and changes made!
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i sure hope so Ute!!!!!! hugs
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I am so proud of you!!! What a great job ! Keep us posted on what happens now.
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I will you can count on it!!!! and thanks Len. you give me confidence
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Good for you, Terry!
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I was surprised at how calm I was………………..I am glad it is over now,,,,,,,,,,,,so where are my M&M’s. I need a break. hehe
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Well done. I hope its not an empty promise.
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if it is an empty promise I don’t know what else to do but call in the tanks!
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I’m glad you spoke to the administrator. I sincerely hope that he isn’t just a “figurehead” but rather, that he has some sort of power to fix the things about which you spoke.
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I am hoping because he is the only one at the top
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me too because I don’t know what I will do if he does nothing
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Applause to you! Good job! Al is so very lucky to have you for a sister. You are a marvelous advocate for him. Hold your head high.
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oh thank you so much Share!!!!
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thank u so much!
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You’re truly amazing 🙂
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thank you. It was actually nerves of steel!! LOL
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I have to take my hat off and applaud you Terry; I’m not sure that I could have remained so calm (or perhaps I could if faced with a cute guy lol).
It’s good that he seems to be taking you seriously; the staff who care for Al should be disciplined.
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I kept my eyes on his big brown eyes!!!! LOL
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Hurray! Good work. The real biggy is that you can pat yourself on the back for behaving with such dignity.
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I did that too !!!! LOL
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Excellent job!…I give you an A+…Now, Let’s see how his notes help…
sounds pretty pleasant…
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he is very nice. so far I have heard nothing back. thanks for the great comment!!!
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Way to go , Terry! I am so happy you were able to go in and say what needed to be said. God bless you as you just keep standing up on Al’s behalf.
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