Please Give Me Your Input

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I found this in my email from a blogger here at WP. If you agree that I am showing too many photos of him and you think I have over done it, please let me know.

I want to encourage you to perhaps use fewer personal images of your brother.  Your story is poignant enough without those images.  I think the measuring rod in deciding what photos to post would be to ask yourself: “What would Al want?”

 

I guess I spend so much time loving him and sharing our life with you I never thought about it. Now please be honest. I will also pray about this. Thank-you friends.

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      • I agree with Ivone, it is your blog sweetie, post what you like, I personally don’t think you are going overboard with photos of Al and I am glad I got to see the photos of him and Rhino. Sounds like this email is from someone concerned with Al’s rights, I am thinking he wouldn’t mind at all. He is in our hearts now too. I will pray that your inbox gets filled with the kind of email you deserve to receive! x

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  2. Some might feel I am already lacking or I’d be inclined to give this unworthy blogger a piece of my mind. First, it is your blog. Second, this is your healing, not his. If he feels it is inappropriate, he can read elsewhere. I’ll be quiet now.

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  3. I think the email writer was out of line as well Terry! If they do not want to read they have that choice. This is your blog and your tributes to Al are as much for your own memories as they are allowing us to share. These pictures allow us a greater insight and understanding. We better understand the good, the bad, the beautiful and all the other emotions that you go through day by day. Don’t let someone who knows nothing of your heart, inhibit you with their prejudices and peevishness!

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    • thank you so much Loopy. I realize I post a lot about Al. I also felt the photo of him and Rhino was appropriate. It was an upper half shot. I showed it to Al and he smiled

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      • Like I said, I am sure that Al would cherish being part of your blog. This is your space to fill with what you choose. Personally insightful blogger posts are the ones that grab me the most. Especially as we are writers and so much of what we post is therefore fictional or poetic – when people read about the person behind the pen it is endearing. Come on, I have been writing about house moves and DIY – I think Al is a far worthy subject for you than the paint pots for me.
        Ignore them honey, I am sure they meant well, like I have said. But this is your decision and your life!

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      • it has brought tears to my eyes to know that I am truly blessed with wonderful friends. people who are full of compassion and love. Al is so important to me. If I thought for a second I was hurting him in any way, I would rid my blog entirely, but he does know he is the star in my eyes and on my blog. he does see the photos of him and he says I take good pictures. lol, bless his heart ……..thanks so much Neens. I really appreciate your comment. thank you for being a good friend

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  4. I sent you a message, and I will be nice, but like other’s have said, THIS is your blog, and THEY have the choice to either read it or not. IF they cannot handle the reality of the disease, and all it brings, because folks, IT’S REAL, then maybe they should not be reading, because it is not a story, IT’S life. As a matter of fact, it’s YOUR’S and Al’S.

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  5. Terry this is your blog, your life, your brother, don’t let the person or persons that feels offended by what you post dictate to you what you need to do to heal. Let them click delete if tey don’twish to face the reality of what happens to someone with this debilatating disease.I for one appreciate what you write from te heart and the photos it lets me know how Al is doing and how I can encourage you stay strong my friend care less what others think they have the ability tonot read this blog belongs to you. Prayers love and hugs my dear one (((xx))))

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    • thank you so much my friend. I would never hurt anyone intentionally, but I do post quite a bit about Al. This woman shot down for a quick moment the joy I got out of seeing Rhino and Al together. To me it was so precious. I just had to share it with you

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    • I show Al a lot of photos of him I post on here. I do not share every photo nor post as I don’t feel it is necessary to drag Al into my own emotions about his illness, but I bounced back from that because I love the love the two show in the photo

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  7. I wonder what photos they are referring to… Most of the ones that you show are with him with his trucks or coca cola memorabilia or the ones with the cat are precious… It is up to you to decide which ones you think are okay… Diane

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    • I think the one with Rhino tonight, that I cherished so much. I realize he had no shirt on, but I didn’t photo his bottom half. I actually printed out the picture and showed it to Al. He liked it. I asked him if I could share it with my friends on my blog and he said yes. I told him I write a lot about him because I am sad about him being sick and it helps me to feel better and he said ok

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  8. So sorry for this unfeeling and selfish person. He/she obviously has issues too deep to measure. Who does this??? Love you, Terry. Chin up & take heart! Sandy

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    • thanks Sandy, actually it is a woman who sent met the email. I would have thought a woman would be more understanding and have more compassion. Al had no shirt on, but neither do thousands of guys at the beaches. I respect Al very much and I would never photo his bottom half when he is not properly dressed

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  9. Miss terry it is your blog and if it helps you cope and heal and spread the word about this disease I think it is fine. Maybe the person lost someone to the disease. It may be painful for them but educational to others. That reminds me of the husband who took pictures throughout his wife’s fight with cancer. It gives the disease a face, a name, a person. It causes you to think of your own mortality. It’s not just the name of a horrible disease, there are others in nursing homes with it that don’t have the family to visit or take them home. Thank you for sharing a piece of your life with me. *hugs*

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  11. Hi Terry, As everyone else has stated, it is your blog, your brother, and your followers, not this person’s site. How else are we going to keep up with your plight, if we don’t get to see how Al is doing? The writer is out of line. If that person does not want to see pictures of Al, he/she can go to another site. We are all brothers, and sisters on this site. At least, I would like to think so. We support each other. Keep posting his pictures. Blessings.

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    • thank you so much. i didn’t post it so I could get people on my side. I know I am guilty of posting lots of posts and photos of Al. But gosh darn it, it helps me to get through his illness and take better care of him. I need the friendships and support from all of you. I am proud of my brother and love him so much. Plus I am building my own little memory box so one day I can go back and read and look at everything. Thanks so much for understanding. big hugs my friend

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  12. Hi sister, I agree with the rest that this is your blog and whoever emailed you was maybe just concerned about revealing Al’s identity? Maybe because of the sensitivity of his condition the writer was emphatic and just trying to help? Maybe? I dunno, just saying. She or he didn’t attack you or anything, I hope?
    You do what you think is appropriate and I am one of the thankful privileged readers who got to know you and Al. I don’t think the email was necessary evil, he or she thought she was doing something appropriate…and gave her 2 cents. And no, I did not send that e-mail. Haha. Love you.

    Don’t hate me, WP bloggers 🙂

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    • You may be right my friend. Concern may be the issue. i find it strange that I have never received comments from this woman prior and then boom this. One of the biggest issues in today’s world is called over doing it. Let me explain myself better. Abuse, a big word, heard, written and spoken about all over the world. But, it can be over done also. Parents who try to teach their child right from wrong and give a prompt spanking are suddenly being drawn into court systems, having that child taken a way, for what? loving and teaching them? over doing it in the word of abuse. not everyone abuses their child, but many more parents are so afraid of actions being taken that you can now see what our kids today are like. No guidelines, being bought love instead of quality love. It is the same with Al. This woman took an innocent photo and made it dirty. This is what hurts and irritates me. What is wrong with her mind that she would jump to this conclusion anyways? Because abuse and neglect and anything else out there is out of control. Yes there is actual abuse going on. This needs to be reported. The child needs protected. But, did I post a photo of Al and Rhino to humiliate him or sell him on nasty web sites? Of course not, I took an innocent photo where he was only showing chest skin and posted it to share the love between pet and human life. I know I have rattled on here too long so I will stop. Big hugs my friend, I do understand what you are saying and I hope the lady who emailed me understands me a little bit better too. I am sure she is reading all these comments although she has offered none herself

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  13. It’s your post. This person is controlling and dictating how one should write. The person can take it or leave it. Whoever you are: Do not read, Terry’s post or keep your mouth shut!

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  14. Please tell that person who was so insensitive to please go and read another blog then that suit his/her personal taste Terry! I love your photo’s and your blog and this is your outlet Terry, your personal space and what you post here is your choice, so if someone doesn’t like it, they can just move on and go and look somewhere else. Ignore people like that from now on hon and keep on doing what makes you feel good. 😀 *big hugs*

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    • thanks so much Sonel. It makes me feel so good to know that so many of you know that I would never ever do anything to compromise my brother as a person. I love him too much

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      • You’ve not compromised him in any way Terry. We all know how much you love him and you are doing the best you can with what you have and that says a lot hon. I admire you for what you are doing. 😀 *big hugs*

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  15. Dear Terry, I don’t know why some people want to interfere in what is yours. It’s your blog, so you can write and put pictures in it of what you want. I’ve never looked at Al the way the meddler probably sees him, it’s the way some people want to see. I love your blog and the way you write, I love Al, and I’m always happy when you post a picture of him, because I can feel the love between you and him. As all the other advices I say the same: don’t let one intruder make you hasitate about what you may or may not put on your blog, I think she doesn’t know you at all. So, no decisions to make here, just go on writing like you did, straight from the heart. Big hug 🙂

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    • thank you. I will probably not post anymore pictures with Al having no shirt on because of her remark. Although if I would have taken time to place a shirt on him the capture would have been lost, but I will continue to write and post and photograph him. I am building myself a memory box!!!!

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  16. Your love for your brother comes through loud and clear, Terry. I can understand the concern about using the images of your brother. From what I have read, it sounds like your brother has some cognizance of what is happening to him, and it weighs heavily on him. I can only speculate, but I imagine he probably wouldn’t want photos of these changes to be broadcast to your readers.

    That said…The choice is yours. You know your brother better than anyone reading your blog does, and you know if he would be okay with you posting the pictures. If you feel in your heart that what you’re doing is right and Al would be on board with it, than by all means continue to make your blog as amazing as you always have, including the pictures!

    If you feel hesitant about posting the pictures, examine why you feel that way, and I believe you will have your answer. 🙂

    Much love,
    Stephanie

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    • thank you Stephanie. I respect your comment very much. I show Al a lot of the pictures I want to post of him because he is mildly mentally challenged and I believe he knows whether he wants them posted. I have drawn a way many times taking photos of him and posting them because I know they would invade his privacy and he would not want his bad days to be shown. Most of the photos I post of him, example, him leaning in his wheelchair or eating issues, is so that you and others can understand more of what I am saying. But I would never disrespect Al in any way. I wish the lady who emailed me had read other posts I have written so she could get a more clear picture of who I am and what I represent in life/ Thanks so much my dear friend, big hugs

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  18. Wow. That person is totally out of line. It makes me speechless. If you want to post pictures of Al, then do so at your hearts content. I find it a good way of illustrating Al’s life. If that person does not like the pictures then they do not need to read your posts. I think the photos of Al with Rhino were absolutely beautiful you could see that this simple thing of having a cat on him was making him so happy:) xx

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    • and that was the whole point in capturing that moment, to show the connection between a very sick man and the love of his pet. If I would have taken the time to dress Al in a shirt I would have lost that moment. Thanks for understanding

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      • It was so lovely. Being a cat lover myself i know how such a simple thing as a cat sitting on me can make me happy and even more so if the cat is purring!! I am so glad you were able to capture that moment

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  19. Terry – I started by replying on other posted comments but felt I should add one of my own.
    Your love for your brother is clear, you are posting the pictures not for the world but for yourself as a memory, of live and real moments. The content of your blog is up to you. People may have concerns about Al’s rights etc but you show him and ask him and I am sure you read if he wasn’t okay about it. This is your space and your story. There are far more offensive sites online and if someone doesn’t like it they should at least have the sensitivity to slope off to follow another blog without ranting about it first. Your life is hard enough already.
    Find that internal IGNORE button hon and slam it down.

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    I agree with Ivone, it is your blog sweetie, post what you like, I personally don’t think you are going overboard with photos of Al and I am glad I got to see the photos of him and Rhino. Sounds like this email is from someone concerned with Al’s rights, I am thinking he wouldn’t mind at all. He is in our hearts now too. I will pray that your inbox gets filled with the kind of email you deserve to receive! x

    Like I said, I am sure that Al would cherish being part of your blog. This is your space to fill with what you choose. Personally insightful blogger posts are the ones that grab me the most. Especially as we are writers and so much of what we post is therefore fictional or poetic – when people read about the person behind the pen it is endearing. Come on, I have been writing about house moves and DIY – I think Al is a far worthy subject for you than the paint pots for me.
    Ignore them honey, I am sure they meant well, like I have said. But this is your decision and your life!

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    • I have shown Al his photos, some of them and he knows I write about him. He seems to be ok and sometimes he smiles when he sees himself on the internet. I would never show a distasteful photo of him out of love and respect. Thank you so much for your support

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  20. I am late to the comments but wanted to echo the many who feel strongly that this is your blog, your thoughts, your photos, your words…Whatever you choose to include is not really up to anyone else but you. This is an overwhelmingly difficult time – sharing your heart with all of us – however you choose to do it, is not anyone’s decision but yours.

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    • bless you my friend for understanding me so well. I think it is because my brother is dying that I over do the posts about him and include photos. It gives me strength to carry on to the next day. it builds a memory box for me. I need my blog and what is in it. hugs my friend

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  21. My dear friend~ Can I get edgy here?
    You post the photos you want, you write about what you want, & you express what you need to say & how you need to do so.
    .This is YOUR blog, it is not for the blogger who emailed you. Just like the television, they are free & welcome to change the channel.

    When I started my blog I had no idea what to expect from others, but I knew without hesitation that the reason I was writing was for myself.
    I publish only in hopes that i might reach one heart, one soul, just maybe something i might say will resonate within another heart and soul.

    I am saying to you my friend, this is your blog, your cathartic expression. Do not worry one iota about pleasing the blogger who emailed you.Or me, or anyone but you.

    May I say I think this was rather cheeky of someone?
    Unless this is a close friend.

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    • no it was not a close friend. I realize I post a lot about Al and show his photos. The one last night without his shirt on, didn’t bother me. Men don’t have shirts on a lot. Al was decent and the picture did so much to my emotions. I was shocked literally when I read her comment. My posts heal me as I walk this journey with my brother. I need this blog probably more than I care to admit. thank you so much for being so understanding. big hugs

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      • Absolutely you need this blog! And let me add that I need your blog. There is far too little spoken out loud about “end of life” and I see what you are doing as lending us your wisdom that you are garnering through this journey with Al.
        You have done nothing without great respect and if your corespondent was off=put my Al not having a shirt on I dare say the problems go deep with this person.
        You are right, there is NOTHING wrong with that photo of him. It is a poignant photo and again I stress this is for you. Most bloggers I know write from their heart & soul, write what they know, write what they need to process.
        I am sorry if I am too animated about this. Too passionately coming to your defense. It is because I have such a strong personal connection with cathartic writing. And with censorship and in effect that is what some people are attempting, though they would likely deny this.

        I am proud of who you are Terry. I admire your integrity. I have several heroes in my life, I think we need heroes. And you are my hero everyday.

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      • I am such an emotional sponge. Reading your comment makes me teary eyed. Not because I am sad, but that you see someone or something in me I do not recognize. I love my brother. I am simple minded in most part. I see life as a way to help others who can’t help themselves. To know that I am a hero, a live person’s hero touches me deep within my soul. I will continue to do what I know. Write on my blog. Help others to understand life isn’t always a margarita. Help others to know there is strength in friendships and all we have to do is reach out to another life. What I didn’t realize is that I was helping someone else who was struggling with so many issues in life. Big hugs my friend and God bless

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  22. Hi Terry,

    This isn’t about your blog, this is about the person who doesn’t want to look at Al’s condition while reading your blog. You do what you feel is true for YOU. It is YOUR blog, not hers/his. Thank them kindly for the suggestion and continue your journey with this as YOU see fit. Don’t let someone talk you out of doing it differently — unless you have had the same thoughts yourself. Then make it your decision, not someone else’s suggestion. Supporting you on your path…

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    • thank you so much Soul. I actually show Al some of the photos I place of him and he likes them. I thought it was precious, him and Rhino together. I realize Al was shirtless, but so are many men who go to the beaches etc. I am ok with what I do and so is Al, so I will continue. thank you so much for being so honest. big hugs

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  23. Terry,

    You are Al’s sister, and because of your profound love for your sibling, I don’t believe you would deliberately display discriminating or belittling pictures of him on the net. And not that I am supporting the ideas of the reader who detests your actions, and has made it into a big deal, but she/he may feel that your pictures are demeaning of your brother, and simply because he himself doesn’t have a clear idea of what others may or may not perceive in seeing these photos of him showing his obvious circumstance. It’s just one opinion, and they have this right. But I wouldn’t go as far as to attack this person making them feel singled out. Instead, help them to understand your purpose in posting pictures as such of Al. And when it comes to the depth of which each of us uniquely love someone, or something, our very heart and soul will go in to preserving and protecting it in each our own way…so you should never feel like you are going overboard showering your brother with love… Besides, you can never have, or give, too much affection away … 🙂

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    • this is so true. I really do understand your points you have made. I only wish the lady who emailed me had taken the time to read other posts and see that I love Al very much. I in no way would ever harm him or embarrass him. I have had times when I wanted to show a photo of him but didn’t out of dignity. Just like the rice in the hair issue last week. I think he would have been highly embarrassed, and therefore I didn’t let that photo be taken. I have not posted the food that falls from his mouth or his many tears or the constant sweating or anything else that may bring him dishonor…………..Thanks so much. You really understand me so well

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  24. Terry, I agree what all the others here are saying … it’s your blog and you do what you want with it. But I can also relate to what the person wrote … the question what does Al think about it … because not all photos are from his good moments and it could be that he doesn’t want people to see that, it’s also about his integrity. That is the most important thing .. in this matter.

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    • you are exactly right. I refuse to post or photograph any of the scenes I observe here at home that will dishonor him. Remember the rice in the hair? I would not show that to the world, it would disrespect him. There have been photos I have posted of his slouching in his wheelchair because I want you and others to have a better understanding of what he is dealing with. I would much rather post those smiles. I guess I should have let the moment slip with Rhino and Al, because Al didn’t have a shirt on, but I didn’t. I loved the love between him and the cat. I did show it to Al and he smiled and he said I could put it on my post, which I did. I try to be very careful because he has a right to privacy. Yet on the other hand I heal from my writing and Al is my writing and my life. Does anyone win? I don’t know

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      • Terry, so long as you do what you think is suitable .. and that you think that Al will approve to – and the photo with Al and Rhino is so innocent and cute – nothing wrong with that – if he had no shirt on .. doesn’t matter, people show themselves on the beach … That photo is so innocent – I think that was the right photos to post. Do you think that was those photos that upset somebody ???? I don’t think so.
        So long you feel comfortable and don’t post photos that Al would like you to post .. maybe you should ask him about what he want to be posted … team work. Smile is what we all want to see, but the reality is so much different .. I don’t think there is a winner in this – you need to write and you want to share the good moments that you have … nothing wrong in that.

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      • Vivi, do you think it is because I post photos of Al without his knowledge on every single photo? What are your thoughts on why the lady emailed me

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  26. Out of all the voices calling out to me…I will choose to listen and believe the Voice of Truth. I’m sure you’ve heard the song. That lyric came to mind after reading this post. It’s your blog, and you can do any little thing you want on it 🙂 So unless the voice of the Good Lord Almighty is telling you not to post pictures of Al…post pictures of Al! If people for some reason don’t like it, they do not have to read your blog.

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    • Brian,I swear, I never had a feeling nor urge, nothing from anywhere as God as my witness that placing Al on my photos would be any more than a photo to show my love and pride and sorrow for him

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      • Exactly! I can’t even fathom God telling you to not post pictures of Al. That was my point 🙂 As in, the individual who wrote what they did is entitled to do so…but you are entitled to put whatever you want on your blog! I don’t know what I would do if someone told me what or what not to put on my blog. Chances are my response might not be as gracious as yours has been 🙂 So good for you. Keep on doing what you’re doing, my friend. You’re doing a great job.

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  27. Terry the love for your brother is the decision for the photos. What is wrong with that? I actually enjoy seeing Al and hearing about this time together with him. If someone is uncomfortable with these photos, I would suggest they not look at them. Please continue with your beautiful photos and stories. 🙂

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  28. I agree with everyone here, you do what you feel right. You are beginning a grieving process and you need to do what feels right to you. This blog is for you and each one of us are blessed to be a part of your journey as we bring encouragement and comfort to you during this time. As for me, you can show as many pictures as you want to and write about Al to your hearts content, we are all here to listen, to pray and to love you and Al ~ we are all here for you. Hugs dear friend

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    • I think your wording is more correct than mine. I am starting a process, a grieving process and I need to do this. Thank you so much for understanding

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  29. Sweetie ~ this is YOUR blog, that individual can or needn’t read your posts, nobody is forcing anyone ~ To me, a blog is a personal journal that we choose to share or not share. Don’t give too much importance to commentaries that are control-based and completely illogical. Blessings dear~ Debbie

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    • Hi Debbie, I like that name! You are right, but since I do post so much about Al I needed to get your input. No matter how important something is to me, I can bore someone else to death! lol. thanks so much my friend

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  30. Hi Terry. The pictures you post of Al are no one elses business. If he is ok with it and it does not compromise his privacy or safety (and I haven’t seen any that has) then I say go for it. As has been said before, it’s YOUR blog. I am sorry the email you recieved made you doubt your decision to share Al in any way. I am going now to look up the picture of Al and his kitty cat. Somehow I missed it, 🙂

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    • Hi Vickie. I think it is because a tiny piece of white was showing that Al was wearing, which was his brief. I tried to cut all of that out but I didn’t get it all

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  31. Terry, it is your blog and you should feel free to continue. For me, seeing Al’s photos gives new meaning to what he is going through and how much you love him. For the blogger who wrote that; maybe you should check out how many bloggers read Terry’s blog. That should tell you that we don’t allow others to pick on her!

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    • I have to admit her remark through me for a loop. I innocently always post photos of Al. To help you understand how he is and to help me heal also. I have appreciated all of the support from bloggers. I did wonder as I do over blog about him. I think it is because I am just crazy about my brother. Al and his illness has drawn me to wonderful people like you Naphtali and closer to God. Aside from blogging I have to lean on God in order to make it to the next day. Thanks so much my dear friend

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  32. i don’t really think it is you are posting too many pics of al. i do think the person is sensitive and raises a valid issue. the issue is would you want pics of yourself posted? in some of the pics it is sad to see how the disease is affecting him physically. personally i would not want those pics of me posted. it would be embarrassing for me. this blog is for you not other’s so stay true to what you need to do. you are a good hearted person and i know that you will search your heart and come to the decision that is in your and al’s best interest.

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    • I understand what you are saying. The sadder pics of Al I post for one reason only. To let all of you know what this disease does. It is part of a teaching tool I use. It helps you to understand the illness. i would never do anything to embarrass Al in any way shape or form. I love him too much.

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      • of course you would never do that. i just thought the person objecting may feel that is a concern.

        however, if they are offended they don’t have to read your blog.

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      • Oh I know you would never think this of me at all. The reason the emailer said what she said was because a tiny white part of Al’s brief was showing

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  33. Terry, I’m in agreement with the 99% on here (holy comments!) and I’m sorry I’ve been absent and didn’t see this photo–my beloved cat (an amputee due to cancer 4 yrs ago) has cancer again and things are a mess as you know I’m sick, too.

    When you post photos on here, it’s like I climb a little deeper into the stories about Al and you. We live in a world where photos are everywhere online and I even revealed part of my face (!) on my blog in the HUGE post on my cat’s journey (which is also mine). I don’t mean to compare Al to a cat, of course, but she’s is literally all I have left and I’m heartbroken. What I’m trying to get at is that by putting part of my face (oh, scary!) on that post, it showed how I really felt in ways words sometimes can’t. It didn’t go unnoticed by the bloggers who follow me and deal with my diseases. I think it’s even more of a tribute to Al, who was so often shunned by his family (not you, of course) and society. It’s saying, “See this man? This is his story.” Without seeing Al (and it’s not every post!) it helps your true readers relate even more. Can you just get rid of that person? “If you have nothing nice to day, say nothing at all!” The internet can be a cruel place and I’ve had plenty of issues on WP as you know.
    Big, big hugs–you’re doing the right thing as it’s all from your heart.
    A ❤

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  34. Terry, I am reading your posts backwards, so I just commented on the next one, again let me say I love you and you do what you want to post, I like to see Al’s pictures it give me more inside and the pic with Al and Rhino is so wonderful! Don’t worry!

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  35. Greetings! I’m sure your intentions are to share the hardships of what he goes through. As long as he’s fine with it, and your intent is to be one who is seeking support, how could that possibly be wrong? You obviously to self-censor, and really, the last thing you need right now is criticism. You need support. Lots and LOTS of support… hugssss

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    • thanks for understanding. There are so many photos in my mind and scenes I take place here at home that I would never show to the public, because I would never intentionally humiliate or embarrass my brother or anyone I cared about for that fact.

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      • Greetings! To be remembered is such an honor, your whole life has been dedicated to him, you’re just sharing your journey with us, insight into his world and yours… besides… it’s nice to have ‘real’ photos versus ones that are conveying something that is not. It makes it very real, and hopefully pushes greater awareness as to the devastating effects of this disease, and what it really takes to care for someone. I’m in AWE of you.

        Pink.

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      • I hope that by sharing Al and my intimate life with him as a caregiver teaches and helps others to understand they are not alone in a terminal illness. I hope that I may reach one person. If I can comfort another soul I have done my part in this devastating illness. Hugs Pink

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  36. Our blogs are our homes and hearts; if people don’t appreciate what they find in these places, the wise thing for them is to go visiting elsewhere. You keep doing what you do, in your own way, and those who share your interests and loves and adventures will keep you company gladly. Blessings!
    Kathryn

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    • I became afraid at first from the emailer. I knew that I posted plenty about my brother, but with the huge support I have received, i have laid those worries to rest. Thank you so much Kathy. I love your comment

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  38. I didn’t take the time to read others’ comments, so I don’t know if any of them have already stated this: Do what you want to do. It’s YOUR blog. Part of the reason you’re doing this blog is to heal your own sorrow. These pictures of Al are something you will always treasure. I think the other blogger meant well, but I wouldn’t follow that advice.

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