One Word is All It Takes


It is odd that just yesterday I was talking to my girlfriend about how the laws and courts can take an innocent person and turn them into gray, black and bruised all over. We sort of laughed over our conversation but there was a tiny part of me that knew something like what we were talking about could happen.

Al and my step-sister took me to court. She wanted to care for Al. I tell you from the day I received the court papers until the judge’s announcement I was a wreck. I prayed like crazy but there must have been a huge part of me that was not praying deeply and earnestly enough.

I knew that I was a good sister. I knew that I had done nothing but my very best for him, but knowing the law, strangers who knew nothing of Al and me could be twisted into believing the evil one.

Fortunately God was at work through my weakness. The judge threw our sister out of court and said she was nothing but a trouble maker and to leave us alone. Al was the center of attention and even though it has been a couple of years ago I can still see the movie clip perfectly.

Al screamed and cried. He kept telling the judge, “please don’t make me go a way from my sister. I love my sister.” I am sure God had a huge hand in our case, but the pain has remained all this time. Anytime Al hears our sister’s name his body tenses. It leaves a sour taste in my mouth when I mention her name.

Believe me that name is not brought up in this house, and yet for Al’s sake, when he begged me to get a hold of her and let her know he was so sick, she turned her back on him and me.

So the conversation with my girlfriend still leaves a small scar in my mind and heart today. A bit of fear can and is with me as I care for Al daily. What if he falls? Is anyone going to blame me? Are the laws going to get involved? Will I once again have to prove my worthiness?

My girlfriend bounced a way from that topic and went on with new subject matter. This morning I am watching Anderson Live. I was shocked when one of the guest was a wife who had been her husband’s caregiver. They had been married almost fifty years. She had to attend things throughout the day so was gone for about six hours total.

I don’t know his health conditions but she stated that he was fine when she left. When she returned home he was dead. When she called the authorities to report his death she was arrested for his death.

Her daughter was on the show and spoke about the fear and tears her Mother suffered. Seeing her own Mother in the orange garb and behind bars. Eventually the innocent prevailed and she was released. I didn’t catch how long she was behind bars. To me this isn’t nearly as important as the fact that this woman who loved her husband. Who would lay down her life for him. Who chose to care for him at home instead of sinking him in a nursing home, was accused of murder.

The facts were in the end that he just died. Sad, yes he died while she was gone, but we don’t know when our last breath will be taken. We can not even live like we are waiting for a last breath to be taken from a friend or loved one. We would all be crazy and fill up the nut houses and be overflowing.

I felt so bad for this wife. Her husband died, and she was tormented and accused. She suffered terribly and was so scared for her life. Finally now that she has been released she can begin to mourn for her mate and begin her healing process.

I couldn’t help but think back to the incident with our sister and the conversation of  my girlfriend last night. Life is never guaranteed, and God wants us to definitely on him for help and release and justice.woman arrested

20 thoughts on “One Word is All It Takes

  1. Terry, you’re not lone in this argument, I have two such sisters and they are my blood. And, unfortunately, I have several brothers as well who are as bad. They are selfish and self-centered, they are thieves of the heart and soul and distrustful in all other ways too. One day we should talk…we’d both feel better.

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    • that would be very nice. The sad thing is that there is a big part of me that fears our sister. I hate that because I am an adult. I am maybe overly cautious when I take my brother out. Fear of who we will see or run into. It is silly because I am a grown woman allowing someone like her get to me . hugs

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  2. Terry, I don’t really know what to think about the story about the woman – I wouldn’t think they arrest anyone without enough evidence … or do they over that there.
    I’m glad the judge through your sister out of court … good on him. In all honesty I don’t think you have to fear for her … because it means too much work for her now .. when Al is in the stage he is.
    There is some life stories out there … and they could all make good movie .. even if only short once.

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    • maybe I should be in the movies!!! I could be a star!!!!! on the serious side though that woman really did get arrested. It was in our local news here, and she was innocent. it does happen more often than not anymore

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      • Terrible … it happen a couple of times .. over here too – but now the laws has change a bit.
        Terry, you are already a bright star … but maybe if you became a movie .. Mr Champagne will ask you out for lunch. *smile

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  3. There is always a possibility that anyone of us can be falsely accused of some misdeed and drug into court without legitimate cause. I’ve always lived under that with my position as Pastor. Over the years the Lord has given me peace knowing that I should follow His leading for my life, do the best I know to do and leave the rest in His hands. If it ever happens, He will be with me and whatever the outcome, it will be for my good and His glory.

    If we dwell on these things, the fear involved can immobilize us to the point we will not be willing to do anything for anyone. That is what Satan would desire. We need to recognize this type of fear comes from him and we need to trust Our Lord knowing that He will never leave, nor forsake us.

    Lord bless you Terry. My prayers continue.

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    • thank you Rob, She still has a fear in me when I hear of her. I do know that God was with me in that courtroom, I have no doubt. I try to live the life God wants me to but I fail at so many things

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  4. I am always afraid that someone will get it wrong and someone innocent will be executed. I used to be a huge proponent of capital punishment, but as I get older and see that the court system isn’t perfect, I am less inclined that way. Of course, there must be some cases that I still feel are justified, but I can’t say I want to see them dead. Scott Peterson, for example. When he got the death penalty, I thought, “You scum! You deserve it.” Now, I think death is too good for him. Let him stay in prisons till her croaks. OK…rant over. Sandy

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    • I am the same way in thinking. Death is the easy way out, and according to God we are not to murder anyone, but then there are issues from all sides coming from my statements, so I better stop

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  5. I am always afraid that someone will get it wrong and someone innocent will be executed. I used to be a huge proponent of capital punishment, but as I get older and see that the court system isn’t perfect, I am less inclined that way. Of course, there must be some cases that I still feel are justified, but I can’t say I want to see them dead. Scott Peterson, for example. When he got the death penalty, I thought, “You scum! You deserve it.” Now, I think death is too good for him. Let him stay in prisons till her croaks. OK…rant over. Sandy

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    • I don’t know what happened to the comment I left earlier, but I see the box is empty. what I basically said was God says we are not to murder anyone. It is not our right to judge nor take a life, and yet it is legally done every day in our justice system. I also believe that a death penalty is a cop out. Make the person pay, don’t relieve them of their guilt. But who am I, just a little peon with big thoughts which the government will never listen to me. Sandy, I always love your comments

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  6. This makes me think of my parents. My dad has Parkinsons. My mom is caring for him. They are both getting older. I wonder when I will be caring for them? That is scary to think of being accused of wrongdoing when you are doing your best! I will definitely be praying a lot!

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    • thank you Sparrow. People sometimes thing the worse first off and have to be proven other wise and this is sad. I cared for my dad and now I am caring for my brother. My question to myself is who will care for me since I am the last of the family

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      • Oh, being the last is a sad thought. I will be praying for you.
        Dear God,
        Please bless Terry & Al. Please comfort Terry as she cares for her brother, give her wisdom, strength and compassion. Please give them great doctors and nurses. Please give Terry a good support group so she doesn’t feel alone. Amen.

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  7. What a sad story. It happens all the time. I have a friend whose 1 yearold died of SIDS. She and her husband were put through the grinder; not allowed to go to the hospital with the baby; not allowed to even know where he was taken. Grilled for hours, finally released. Horrible experience, and added to the terrible grief they suffered.

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