The Man on the Edge of his Bed

Sorry friends, that I have not chatted with you today. Here it is 7pm and I am just able to write. Al was up a lot during the night. He went to sleep about 2am and so I was able to go to bed. At 4 he was up and then continued wanting something off and on until 6:30 this morning.

I caught another hour and a half and then the care giver arrived. I was also waiting for the shower girl to arrive. I had not met this shower girl. When she came she peeked in on Al and noticed his coca cola collection and that was all it took.

The two immediately bonded. Al was not able to have a shower today. He was too sleepy and too weak. He got a nice bed bath and I heard the chatter out in the living room until she left. That felt good. I know the two enjoyed their time together.

For right now, being squeezed in on the schedule we don’t know who will end up being the regular shower girl, but I am keeping my fingers crossed it is her.

Al confided in me in the wee hours of the morning that something had happened and this is why he could not sleep. To me it was a prayer answered. To Al, it shook him up causing him to not be able to sleep.

He told me his dad had come to see him. He said dad sat on the edge of his bed and told him that he wanted to be friends with Al. I got goose bumps as I had waited for this for years.

For Al the only dad he recognized was the one who picked on him and criticized him his whole life. I explained to Al that when dad went to heaven he forgot all of the bad stuff. I had been telling Al this for sometime.

And yet if Al did see dad and talk to him, and if people really do forget the bad things, then why did he tell Al he wanted to be friends? I don’t know the answers. I just kept telling Al this was great news. Now he and mom and dad could all be happy together.

I know Al has pondered on this all day. He fought sleep. His eyes would be nearly closed and then he would force them open again. I wish he would have slept for his own sake though. He didn’t feel well. He complained and was irritable.

Al finally went to sleep this afternoon. I had to wake him up for supper. I just fed him and changed him. I am now finishing my own supper. I went in to check on Al before sitting down here to chat with you and Al through sleepy eyes told me the end is almost here. I patted his hand and said this is a good thing Al, no more pain and many days of being with mom and dad again. He then closed his eyes and went to


20 thoughts on “The Man on the Edge of his Bed

  1. Terry perhaps your Dad came to reassure Al in the only words he would understand and not have the negative feelings of his Dad anymore. If Al is in the least bit hesitant about leaving you or scared as anyone would be, this may have been a way to give him courage to let go. Just my thoughts.. prayers and love.


  2. Keeping you and Al in my prayers even if I don’t get to comment as often I would like. I pray he peacefully accepts when it’s time to let go, and you find peace in knowing he will be free of pain and suffering. Hugs!


    • I am doing better each day as I see him suffer that it is time to let him go. It is so nice to chat a moment with you. If I don’t talk to you soon, have a very Merry Christmas


  3. Many who have gone on and who left things undone often come back as a guide to help the one who they had wronged in their time here.
    I thought when my brother went from liver cancer his daughter would be there for him when his time came, but he talked to our Mother who abandoned us when he was a baby.
    She was there for my sister too.
    I believe the guides have a purpose to fulfill for themselves and for the ones they come walk the path.
    Hugs to you and Al both.


    • I think you are absolutely right. Angels are always with us, but we live such busy lives we take no notice. But when fear of our lives may become short lived, we become more aware of what was always there. Hugs my friend


  4. Bob is starting to talk about dying, he’s still a ways from it but it is on his mind. He has lots of fears that are coming to roost and it agitates him quite a lot. At this point in our journey it is a very scary thing. Because of your recent posts I have been assuring him that when the time does come he will have a peace and calmness and a readiness for it. Thank you for opening the door and letting us see how your journey is progressing. We keep you in our prayers for His strength and peace to overwhelm you.


    • Thank you Susan. I can remember when Al began talking about dying. It is a process to get to the point where Al is now. I don’t know when Al will leave us, but I do know that he is finally at peace with all of his decisions. Things we take so ordinary become big to them. I listen, I I don’t understand, and I hold deep love and compassion. This is our biggest gifts to them while they go through this journey. Hugs Susan


  5. It is good for you and for his own to make peace with it all ,and be ready to go in peace. It makes him calm and he can rest more easily. It is so good that he ahs you to listen and you know him best and he knows that. Always in my prayes and close to you , my dear Terry!


  6. I think he came to let Al know that although all the bad things are forgotten, how he made Al feel, isn’t and he wanted to let him know that he will welcome him up there.

    Good luck Terry, you know we are with you.


  7. It sounds like a blessing. Maybe he visited Al to help guide him into the next life. I think he’s ready to make peace with Al too for how he treated him. He might see that they will be reunited soon & wants things to be settled for when they are together again.
    {Hugs} to you & Al


    • I am so hoping this is what is happening too RoSy. I was so sure Al would be happy about it but he was more confused. today is a little better in that area but Al keeps telling me over and over he loves me, which is a good thing, but I can tell he thinks he is going soon


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