Dedicated To My Friend Dianne Cogar


This past week I have been reading more of Dianne’s  poetry than ever before. Why, you ask? Because she writes about life. She writes about people. She writes from her heart and soul the same as I.

I have been lucky enough to have chatted with her over the phone and I am glad that I can call her one of my friends. She knows that I care for Al. She has also done this in her own family, been the head caregiver. She along with anyone who has taken care of elderly, disabled, or anything that others would consider out of the normal, know how tedious and    butterflies 2tiring this job can be.

She also realized as you do that I pretty much go it alone. The Hospice number is always at hand for me, and I greatly appreciate this as I am treading some new waters I have not waded in before.

I stress over things that haven’t happened and you can call me one silly worry wart. I do because of caring for my brother and my father. I can’t  help but  wonder what will happen to me. I know I have said this before, but it weighs on my mind. No one wants to lose their memory. No one wants to become ill.

No one wants to end up as  a stranger to their family. No one wants to die alone. Dianne has been writing poetry for years and this past week she has touched base on the caring for parents.

I was rummaging through U Tube waiting to give my brother his medications and bed time snack when I came across this video. It ripped at my heart as I could relate in so many patients I have cared for.

I don’t care how young you are. Some day you are going to forget things. You are going to wrinkle. You are going to get old no matter how much you exercise or  pay to look young. And I can promise you that one day, you will die.

I guess what I am getting at is- take a moment. Look around in your busy life. Do you have grandparents that are lonely? Do you have an aunt or uncle, brother or sister who is disabled? Do you know someone in your corner of life that is all alone.

My saying I have had for 23 years as a caregiver is “ treat everyone like you want to be treated when you become old. Don’t forget the elderly and the disabled.”

Take a look at this video. It is in a foreign language but read the bottom, it is in English. If you have seen it before, watch it again. If you have never seen it, watch it and then take mental notes.

Thank-you Dianne Cogar so much for coming into my life at the time you did. It was meant to happen. You, my friends can find Dianne on Facebook. She writes for Blue Mountains Art Backyard. She has had her poetry published and I am always astounded at what comes out of her mind onto white pages.

Here is the video.

http://youtu.be/N6_583_o54U