Making Memories

Last weekend on Hallmark station the Christmas movies began. I refused to watch any of them. After all it is weeks before Christmas morning. Even as I sit here staring at what I think is our beautiful tree.

This weekend has started out pretty good. Al hasn’t gotten out of bed but it’s alright. It is warm but windy outside. I keep seeing leaves fluttering outside the window, reminding me of winter coming.

It was almost like a silent rebel inside of me. I knew those movies were on. The feel good, family, love, everyone happy movies. I left my TV off most of the day, but this forced me to listen to Al’s TV which had football games on. Sorry friends I am not a football fan.

Then I did it. I flipped the TV on and turned it to the station, Hallmark. There it was staring me in the face. Pretty snow flakes, smiling faces, people getting engaged. Wow, I was starting to feel like a real Scrooge.

I didn’t like that conclusion but I didn’t like the sadness that ripped across my heart either. Tender memories of Mom and Dad. Hustle and bustle of trimming trees, sharing holidays with the entire family. Wow, once again I felt like I had went from a feeling of seven down to a two.

What nonsense I was doing to myself. Mom and Dad wouldn’t want me sulking and missing out on making more memories. I want to fall in love again and yet I refused to watch someone else experiencing that feeling.

Was I jealous? Maybe, not sure. I have a family of my own. My brother, and three kids, their kids and two new ones coming next year. Why am I wasting time on past memories that make me sad? Of course there is never a day I don’t think of our parents, but life moves forward and I need to try too.

I have not turned the TV off, I have watched from my cozy couch or from the stove while cooking Al and me supper movie after movie. A part of me feels lighter, happier. The holidays are coming whether we like it or not.

People will celebrate in what ever form they are accustomed to. I refuse to sit here and dwell on what was or worry about whether Al is going to be here at Christmas. I am working with all of my human power to enjoy today.

Today with Al, tomorrow with tossing leaves, cooler weather, snowflakes that will fall, Thanksgiving with which ever kids show up and Christmas, a time of making new and better memories and giving thanks for baby Jesus being born.




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Daily Prompt; Silver Screen

English: Julia Roberts attending the premiere ..., DP, Daily Post

Take a quote from your favorite movie — there’s the title of your post. Now, write!

I’m sorry. I don’t want an apartment you set up and all your money. I want it all.

This is a quote from one of my favorite movies, Pretty Woman.

Deep down inside a lot of us is a desire to have the so-called perfect life. Today it is harder than ever to achieve this as morals have been dropped to an all time low. Babies being born out of affairs. Cheating spouses is not even new news to us anymore.

Julia Roberts wanted to make something of herself in this movie. She had nowhere to start she thought, except by making big bucks being a hooker. She lived in a tiny apartment with a girlfriend. She was a beautiful woman most definitely. This attracted a most handsome man, Richard Geer.

He hired her for a night and then for a week. He lavished her from head to toe. She had to learn how to eat properly. Walk with dignity, and definitely how to dress for the public. She was introduced to the rich social media.

She not only made big dollars for being his escort and lover, she fell in love with him. He also fell for her also but was afraid to commit. When we humans are hurt emotionally we build walls around us. We hope to protect our hearts from yet another pain.

I have heard it said many times that the way you get over the loss of a pet or a partner is to get another to replace it or him or her. I believe there is truth in this. We will always have our memories. This is what is unique about our brains.

But we can push those memories to the back and fill the now empty space at the front with brand new memories. We can love one more time. We can do this with humans or new pets.

Richard’s business trip was over. This made the deal between him and  Julia over also. He knew he loved her so he offered her the world. Diamonds, luxury cars and apartments. The one thing he didn’t offer her was his commitment to marry.

She turned it all down and went back to her beat-up apartment. She made plans to move forward and to try to forget him. Does love grown stronger through absence? In this case, the answer is yes.

Richard broke down and went to rescue his princess. He lowered his defense wall and decided to take the risk. He loved her that much. Offering love doesn’t cost a cent. I love this movie because morals were kept in place. She could have had it all some say. To me she received it all when she was embraced with the total package. The gold box, holding security, love  and marriage was the one waiting under the Christmas Tree to be opened.

All of the other goodies, money, jewels, social outings were all just icing on the wedding cake.

Daily Prompt ; A Plot of Earth / The Daily Post

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You’re given a plot of land and have the financial resources to do what you please. What’s the plan?

Have you ever seen the movie titled Patch Adams? It is my ultimate movie. I have watched it more times than my age number. I am going to do something that I have never done before. I am going to replace Robin Williams, the star of the movie with me.

I am going to build a log cabin. This new home will over look mountains of green grass and wild flowers. You will be able to over-look the whole scene and feel the hope in the air.

After I have the cabin built, I will move myself along with a team of volunteers who are wanting to help. We would immediately begin to build another log style home in walking distance.

It would be on the large-scale of the home we live in. It would hold a very large waiting area with smaller rooms that hugged each side of a wall. A welcome desk would await each visitor that walked in the front door.

There officially would be no doctor on call. There would be volunteers of people with experience in the field of caring. A visitor would bring his weary soul in and find comfort. A cool drink of water a slice of fresh home-made bread with apple butter.  A cut would be cleansed and wrapped in a covering. A person who could sit with a client and be a good listener for all who want to talk. Hours would be open to all and volunteers would rotate hours and days. You would never see a closed-door to anyone needing a hug.

Behind the home there would be a vast space that is growing vegetables. Potatoes, tomatoes, corn, beans,  peas, onions, melons and carrots. If a customer could afford a few pennies these were placed in a jar and new seedlings would be purchased to continue growth all year round.

When someone comes in with an empty stomach, they could pick up a recycled bag and go to the garden and fill it up with nourishing foods. In a small plot next to the plants would be a patch of flowers. The clients could pick a couple of flowers to carry home with them. It would brighten their day.

Medical expenses are so high it is actually preventing people from seeking help. Many times it is of a medical need but so many other times it is an emotional need. The staff would grow by using clients to help out in ways that would use their talents. Maybe they would work in the gardens. Perhaps they would help to bake bread. Maybe they would help sweep floors or do laundry and hang on the clothes line outdoors. This is a situation where everyone would win.

The client would feel useful. The staff would become more than basic. Everyone helping everyone. During the dusk hours and breaks we would stand outside and look over the shadows resting atop the mountains and give thanks to our almighty God for giving us the opportunity to help just one person.