What was it that drew you to your significant other? Their blue eyes? Their ginger countenance? Their smile? Their voice?
Well now this gives me an opportunity to look back, way back to a different time in my life.
Back in those days I looked entirely different at relationships than I do today. I looked at being in love. I didn’t see too much of a future unless it had to do with wedding gowns.
Oh, don’t misunderstand. Marriage and kids, being with the man I adored all worked out for quite a while.
But what I didn’t look at was compatibility. How would we differ in raising our children? How did we feel about God? What about trust, was it really in the cards?
Well today I have been divorced for seven years. I don’t really like it. Being alone is not the icing on the cake in life for me. For some it is, but I like companionship.
Now, all these years later if there is an interest between a guy and myself, I will look for the common denominators before jumping madly in love.
Now I want to make sure that we both believe in the important things. Money, God, what do we expect out of each other.
It is a little harder to find this as I get older, but I don’t give up hope. Even as I sit in my rocker in my eighties I will still carry a little hope . Maybe I will meet him in the nursing home where I will live. I hear there are some ornery ones in there.
I do know that I want a man who doesn’t want or need to be taken care of. I want a man who thinks of me for a change as a lady. Maybe he could spoil me just a bit, like I spoiled my brother.
Hopefully he has a wonderful smile, and good-looking would be nice too. He has to respect and love his family. This is a must for me. Wow, I am getting picky now aren’t I? Well what drew me to a guy in the beginning has changed due to what I have lived and learned. I just know there is a stud-muffin somewhere out there with the passion of a running horse, just waiting to meet me.