All day I felt sick. I was either nauseated or sitting on the pot. I am tired and stressed. Worn out and frazzled. Tonight I have been doing laundry because as far as I know Al leaves tomorrow around 6:30pm for the Hospice House.
I have cried today. Tears for the helplessness I feel for Al. Tears to have to watch him decline. Tears for the amazing friends, yes I call each of you friends, that have said the kindest words ever I have heard.
How can I not see your face and yet feel so close to so many of you. M.S.A. support pages on Facebook have become a resting place for my mind. No, it is not a joy to see others write to me how they have lost their loved ones to this terrible disease. But so many times they recognize Al’s symptoms because they have dealt with it too.
M.S.A. web pages are full of children caring for parents they have lost. Many are in the same place I am, playing the what is this, what if, and how much more suffering will our loved ones have to tolerate game.
It is a sick game, an emotionally draining game with no end in sight. My dad had leukemia and he never suffered like Al is until the last week of his life. I see Al suffering day in and day out.
My mom had an aneurism and she went into a coma almost immediately. Then there is M.S.A. who lets everyone know it is here and is staying until it gets sick and tired, bored and moves on down the road to the next culprit.
Al has slept for the most part all day. He did eat, smaller meals but eating. He is watching TV so I am writing my thoughts. I look around at the oddities here in our house. I see orange Halloween lights mixed among other corners of Christmas lights and sparkles and I think this is nice, although different, and Al, this is all for you.
I am going to miss him terribly while he is on vacation, but I will also keep it foremost that for me to be able to tackle M.S.A. I need to be in tip-top shape. When I want to fall asleep while Al is awake is not a good thing.
The house will be quiet but maybe Rhino will be my cat again. The washer will silence for a few days. There will only be one TV playing. Meals will go back to easy fixings. Grocery bill will go down. No Hospice nurses to meet, no doctors to see. I can sleep and stay in my house coat all day if I want.
All this will lead to a better sister when he returns. I sort of freak out just a bit. What if God takes him while he is gone but then I think, no, God won’t allow that. He knows how important it is to me that I am holding Al’s hand when that happens.
I always notice when Al is upset or talking to the nurses or doctors all I have to do is hold is hand and rub his fingers and he calms down instantly, every time. Al may not be able to verbalize well in an adult way, but his actions speak very loud.
God was working over-time here at our house. He was answering the hundreds of prayers that were being said last night. I have had over a thousand comments of prayers. So I don’t have to see your face to know you are my friend. I just know and feel it. I don’t care if you live in Australia, or England or Africa or next door, you are my friend to the end.
Friend
What is a friend
A mind with no face
A touch with no hand
A beating heart
Reaching out to me
Thoughts of goodwill
Tears shared
Through the oceans
A step forward
With no imprint
A message
With no bottle
Heart linked to heart
This is who and what
My friends are made of.
Written by,
Terry Shepherd
10/24/2013
Dedicated to all people on my Facebook and WP pages.
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Praying you feel better. May God restore your health and may you feel His mighty restoration in your soul. May you have a blessed weekend!
april
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bless you April. God is allowing me this time because he knows I will be facing a new challenge soon. Hugs
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Praying for you.
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bless you Holly, hugs
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We’re just 5 of your many friends in Brazil. You are a model to us bloggers.
So, get well soon.
All the best,
LoBBPfY == Lots of Brazilian Bloggers Praying for You ! 😎
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oh that is so nice to hear. You make tears come to my eyes. I am so blessed. You are so special. big hugs
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All we did was to say just the plain, obvious boring truth. But, indeed, you are blessed.
So, you from USA also use hugs as a form of greeting ? Cool !
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Hi there, thanks. I am from U.S.A. Indiana!!
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Always praying.
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you have no idea how much I appreciate what you do for us. hugs my friend
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time for you again…we seem to know…but, won’t do it sometimes…glad you will have some rest…ONE SMART LADY!
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thanks I really do need to recharge my batteries so I can deal with the next round. hugs my dear friend
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I pray you will feel a lot better, the soonest, you hear.
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bless and hugs to you my friend. thank you. I think a lot of sleep will help
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I drink a lot of water when I do not feel fine. Fluid change in the system makes me feel better.
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really? I have never tried that but will. It is amazing how nerves and stress can make you ill
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Squeezing you tightly! Much love !
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thank you so much. You are so wonderful
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You too! 🙂
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Hugs.
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hugs my friend
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Beautiful, Terry.
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thank you Julie, I hope your day is brighter today than yesterday
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‘A message with no bottle.” Lovely image. Keep strong, Terry, you’re doing better than most of us ever would.
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oh thank you Jane. I have you and all my friends and God on my side
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Rest and relax while he is away. You need your strength. Take care of you
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I really plan to sleep a lot and write!!!! hugs
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Good idea
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honoured to know you, and wish you are feeling well today… 😉
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I just need a lot of sleep. Thank you so much Cobbie!! big hugs
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I am really really hoping that you give yourself every opportunity to take care of yourself during this respite Terry…Nap, eat well, take walks, nap some more – restore…
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I promise. I will definitely sleep and catch up. thank you so much Mimi
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I know it’s always hard when Al is away, but as everyone has said, you do need a break and some quiet time to build yourself back up. Eat, sleep, relax. Go to a thrift store! Just do something for yourself, Terry. You keep me going with my own health struggles, so your blog is a 2-way street in my mind.
Big hugs! A xx
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hello my friend, your comment touched my heart. thank you, I will rest and catch up on sleep. A thrift store sounds nice
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Thinking of you xxx
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thank you
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My heart goes out to you… Love your poem, rings so true in my heart…
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Well hello Pink!!! Wonderful to speak to you. Thanks for a wonderful comment
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Always a treat to speak with you tooooo!!! Hugs for you and all that you are going through… my heart goes out to you…. 😀
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thanks dear friend
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BIGGGG HUGS!!! Love you and praying for you both,
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I love your hugs my friend, thank you!!!
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Thank you Terry for being the person you are. Things that happen in our lives make us stronger and I know God is with you every step of the way.
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You are right, God is here, I could do nothing without his help and your support. Big hugs Hook!!!
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prayers and hugs…..
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Hi Cate!!!!!! thank you for the prayers and big hugs to you my dear friend!!!
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🙂
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Thinking of you Terry………….. Diane
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HI Diane, it is very quiet here this morning, so I am just writing for now
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Terry dear, you haven’t been forgotten in the least but I’m recuperating fro
bronchitis and eye infection ~ nevertheless you’ve been in my every prayer &
every thought these days. How are you managing dearest, how’s Al?
What can I do to console your aching heart?
I really love you always ~Debbie
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HI Debbie, I so dread that time. Every fall or winter I get bronchitis and an eye infection. It never fails. Al is in the Hospice House so I can have a break and he can see different people. He will be home Wednesday. It has been hard to not have him here. Today is the best day of all. I am so scared I am going to lose my computer here soon. I have done everything I can think of but I think my hard drive is going bad, which will be bad for me. I would need a new tower. I am scared. I don’t know how much towers are but I bet they are not cheap. Pray that I am not taken a way from the computer which has become my life next to Al
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Terry dear, how’s it going? Write me or email ~just to unwind, ok. I care sincerely & you’re in my prayers ~Faithfully Debbie
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Hi Debbie, I am wondering the same thing about you. How are you doing? Al comes home in about two hours then all goes back to our regular routine. I did get the house really clean while he was gone
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hugs!!
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